In my earlier post, I discussed primary reasons for growing infidelity and discussed one of the major concerns: "Why marriage adultery ratio is higher in Mumbai?". Let me continue with discussion on some other critical concerns:
Q: Why infidelity creeps in?
Today, many people, whose outside-marriage-relationships are posing a challenge, frequent marital therapists and psychiatrists especially in Mumbai. Psychologist at Lilavati Hospital Dr Varkha Chulani gets about two people per week with marriage infidelity issue. She feels, “There are plenty of reasons for emergence of infidelity in marriage, which varies from person to person. Commonly, it is outcome of mismatched marriage, mind check differences, sexual dissatisfaction, value disparities, experiment, fun and so and so forth.”
Q: How many categories are there?
Generally adultery sneaks in either as a one-night stand and or serious-emotional affair. It is often seen that one-stand is usually the result of sexual dissatisfaction or the desire to experiment whereas the emotion extra-marital affair is generally an offshoot of marriage-for-wrong reasons. Apparently some people who tie nuptial knot for financial benefits or in order to escape from their present situation, many a time land up in extra-marital affair to fulfil their emotional need. Such relationships are much more harrowing and demanding.
Q: What one needs to do?
Marital therapists believe that it is essential for people to think about the basic reasons behind their adultery and accordingly one should deal with it. “If it is just the outcome of their auto-sexual or polygamous nature then one requires to think about the possible consequences like hazardous sexually transmitted diseases, ill- effect on marriage, etc. For people who are involved in highly emotional extra-marital affair should take a decision for good and if they intend to stick with it then it better to officially get separated with their spouse and commit with their lovers,” suggests Dr. Bhonsle.
