Penis the Menace - Circumcision

Q: I am a 32-year-old single virgin. Six months ago my foreskin could slide down without any problem but now it has become tighter and very difficult to pull down completely. If I use force it pains and I get cracks on the skin which burn when I urinate. I also see white residue on the head of the penis and on the foreskin, though it doesn’t smell. Can you please help? I am worried.

A: You need to see a surgeon who may suggest a circumcision which is a simple, painless procedure. Do not hesitate.

Masturbatory sample

Q: I got married in May this year and have never used a condom so far. Yet my wife has not conceived. Recently her periods got delayed by 10 days, but eventually she menstruated. How can she get pregnant?

A: Both of you should visit a gynaecologist to confirm if she is ok. You should get a spermatic fluid examination done. Go to a pathologist, he’ll give you a small container in which you can provide a masturbatory sample.

Which days are safe to have sex without pregnancy?

Q: I am getting married next month and we plan to have a child after one year. What is the safest period to have sex without contraception?

A: The first and last seven days counting from the first day of your wife’s menstruation are the safest days. Why not use a condom, so that you can have pleasure on other days as well?

How to increase stamina for sex?

Q: I am a 29-year-old man. I want to increase my stamina for sex. Currently my erection lasts only for one to two minutes. Please help me.

A: You can enjoy your sexual life even with one or two minutes erection. Do not focus on the stopwatch; instead, enjoy your partner's company. Indulge in longer foreplay to satisfy her as well. Learn better control of your sex pleasure centre in the brain. Try the stop-start therapy. Following are some of the ways to enhance your sex experience:

• Use Ezerex penis enlargement and solutions for guaranteed prolonged erections
• Use Undercover Condoms for that firm grip which enhances sexual performance

How to plan for the first sex

Q: I am a 24-year-old man and my girlfriend is 19 -years old. We plan to have sex, is it safe?

A: Sex is not only about safety, there are other factors like the future consequences. If you must, than always use a condom. I would recommend you use Undercover Condoms which are clinically tested and are medically safe to use and provide extra grip & satisfaction. Also there are many other ways to satisfy each other, try those first.

How to seduce fiancee not interested in sex?

Q: My fiancee is not interested in sex. She is studying medicine and thinks that sex is only for reproduction. We have sex chat on the phone and I masturbate but when I am with her she does not like to talk about it. She is unable to detect the reason of her disinterest. Please help us.

A: Make her speak to an elder, like her mother or see a sex counsellor. You can indulge in more action like kissing or hugging.

Is frequent oral sex advisable?

Q: We are a couple of long standing. Is there any issue if both of us make oral sex a part of our intercourse every time? Will it lead to any disease? Is there a safe way to do this or should we stop?

A: It is normal if both of you agree. Oral sex is safe and does not lead to disease.

EROS for prolonged erection

Q: I am nearing 50 years of age and have been using the delay cream ‘Eros’ on random occasions for prolonged ejaculation. My wife enjoys it. Is it alright to use this cream on a regular basis? Will it have any side effects if I use it for a long term?

A: If you can do without it, good. If not, I see no harm as you have used it often. I would recommend Ezerex's proven solution for prolonged erections. Why not increase foreplay so that she can get an orgasm before intercourse and more later?

Miscarriage, Cysts in ovaries & Copper T

Q: I am a 28-year-old mother of an eight-year-old boy and a three-year-old girl and my husband is 35. I have had two miscarriages so far and have got cysts in my ovaries. Though we have a healthy sex life now, we could not have one earlier when we were working long hours. Nowadays I experience pain for several hours after intercourse. My husband’s penis measures seven inches from pubic hair to the tip and he is circumcised. He is a gentle and caring lover and I am well lubricated too (I use Xylocaine 2 per cent gel). I have inserted a Copper T, which the gynaec says should not cause a problem. What could be the problem then?

A: Re-check with the gynaec to exclude possibilities of any infection. A vaginal pessary may be advised.

Does sex with innerwears on cause pregnancy?

Q: My girlfriend and I had sex with our innerwear on. Will she get pregnant?

A: Possibly not. But it depends on how deep and near the vagina your penis was. Innerwear tends to move aside to allow the penis to touch the vagina. Next time try using a condom even if you are clothed.

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Does masturbation cause pimples?

Q: I am a 22-year-old man. I want to know if masturbation can be the cause for pimples on my face. I used to masturbate once or twice a week. My friends tell me that it’s this habit which causes the pimples. Please help me. I’m very worried.

A: Certainly not. Ask your ignorant friends to get educated.

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Should I remove foreskin of penis for better sex?

Q: I am 29-year-old man. My foreskin does not go back completely, and I suspect I have an infection there. Do I need to remove my foreskin? How many days will it take if I get it operated? Will this be a minor or major affair? Do I need to visit any particular physician?

A: The foreskin should easily slip up and down till the base of the head of the penis. If it does not, see a surgeon. The operation is simple and painless. You can go home in a few hours and after a day's rest go back to work. Complete healing takes ten to fifteen days.

Too frequent masturbation...

Q: I am 22 years old. I have been masturbating daily since the last five years. Is this frequency okay? Also, 90 per cent of the times I ejaculate in my undergarments. Can this lead to any infection?

A: Masturbate only when you're truly sexually aroused; do not make it a habit. Why not use a cloth and save your underwear? Hopefully you're exposing your penis out of your underwear.

Does length of head of penis mater in sex?

Q: I am 26 years old. The head of my penis is around 35 per cent of the total length of my penis. Is this okay? Also the foreskin covers the entire penis, except the tip, when fully erect. Will this cause a problem in sexual intercourse?

A: Are you an architect? Your penis is perfect. The foreskin should easily slip up and over the head of the penis.

How to find out if estranged wife had sex with someone else?

Q: My wife hasn't been staying with me for the past six months. Now, she wants to come back. Is there any medical test that can detect if she has had sex during this period? Or maybe has been through an abortion? Where can we get this test done? We have a two-year-old kid.

A: With so much suspicion in your head, your reunion is bound to fail. If you both want to get back together, forget the past and think of the baby.

Will under-sized penis cause problems in marriage?

Q: I am a 26-year-old bachelor. I am slightly obese. I am getting married next month. My penis measures only one and a half inches when flaccid and almost three inches when erect. Will I be able to penetrate successfully? I have fat thighs. What will be the best position for me?

A: With so many doubts, it is best you undergo premarital counselling. It will benefit you immensely. In the meanwhile, exercise and eat sensibly to reduce weight.

Regular periods even after unprotected sex?

Q: I am 22 years old. I indulged in unprotected sex with my boyfriend in the month of May. I got my periods the next month. The periods were regular till last month. However, I have missed my periods this month. I am very scared. What do I do?

A: It cannot be due to a conception, so do not be scared. You should consult a gynaecologist. In the meanwhile, have an iron tonic.

Habit of rubbing private parts

Q: I am a 19-year-old girl. Over the past six months, I have developed a habit of rubbing my private parts. Sometimes, a white coloured liquid is secreted from my vagina. Am I normal? Please help.

A: You are trying to satisfy your sexual urge by this method. A lot of single (and even married
women) do the same. There is nothing to be anxious about. Do not poke your finger in the
vagina or you will break your hymen. Go on Google and educate yourself about the human
anatomy. The white fluid is your natural vaginal secretion.

Small penis, No facial hair: Any impact on sex life?

Q1: I am 23 years old. My penis measures only 4.5 inches. Please help.

A: Live with it and be satisfied because the size is adequate for intercourse and to satisfy a
woman. However if you still wish to enlarge your penis (note that this will improve your mentality, and not your sex life), try Ezerex.

Q2: I am 24 years old. I don't have facial hair. I am always teased by my colleagues. Is there a cream or a tablet to promote hair growth?

A: Have patience. If you feel that other parts of your body haven't developed as well, then
consult an endocrinologist. Maybe you need to do exercise and eat right. Ignore the
comments. People can be heartless at times.

No orgasm, Premature ejaculation, Frustrated wife

Q: I am 30 years old, married four months ago. I usually ejaculate during foreplay. Sometimes my penis doesn’t get erect due to lack of excitement. Many times my penis bends at the time of penetration or it slips away from the vagina. Sometimes during penetration, it withdraws on its own due to weakness. My wife and I are very frustrated. Please help.

A: Change your position. Try the woman on top position. During masturbation, stop much before you get the sensation to ejaculate. Press the head of your penis between two fingers and your thumb, and restart stroking. Repeat 12 to 15 times. You should improve in four months. At intercourse, enter gently. A well-lubricated vagina can make matters easier. Wait inside till you are under control; stop and start many times. If this therapy does not succeed, see a sexologist for medication.

No vaginal sensation while on condoms

Q: I am 39 years old, married for the last 12 years. Whenever I use a condom during intercourse with my wife, I don’t feel her vagina and hence I don't get excited. I need to have that sensation to reach orgasm. Is this psychological? Is there any way to
get aroused despite a condom? Do you suggest any particular type?

A: A very thin variety of condoms is now available and they allow better sensation. You could try sex without a condom the first and last seven days of the period. Count from the first day. On other days, use a condom. Increase pleasure by longer foreplay.

Sex during pregnancy - How?

Q: My wife is in the first month of pregnancy. Is it safe to have sex? The doctor has suggested otherwise. Please advise.

A: You must listen to her doctor. During the first three months, the fertilised ovum tries to get a firm place in the uterus and it can be displaced due to sex. Also, during the first three months, the woman experiences nausea and vomiting. It is not necessary to indulge in peno-vaginal sex. You could ask her to help you with masturbation. Some also practice ‘sex between thighs’. It is likely that you will not get proper erection. Consult MaxErect.com for their guaranteed solution for erection-related problems.

Ask Sexpert: Medicine to increase breast size

Q: I am 28 years old. I wish to increase my breast size. I have heard there are many gels available in the market for the same. Some people say eating fruits like strawberry helps blood circulation and hence aid increase of breast size. Is this true? Please help.

A: No fruit, no food, cream or gadget will increase the size. Why not pay greater attention to the other attractive parts of your body. Develop them so that people are more attracted to them rather than your breasts.

Ask Sexpert: Excessive masturbation & sex life

Q: 1) My penis is slightly bent towards the left. Also, the foreskin doesn't slide down completely. Will this affect my sex life? 2) Does excessive masturbation lead to any brain related disorder? 3) What are the precautions that one must take to avoid infections when indulging in oral sex?

A: 1) The bend will not make any difference to your ability to have intercourse. The foreskin should be examined by a surgeon. You may need a circumcision. 2) Masturbation does not harm any part of the body, including the brain. 3) Oral sex does not do harm if the person does it with a single trusted partner. Oral sex is illegal in India.

Ask Sexpert: Penis size & problems of using condom

Q: Is the length of penis hereditary?

A: No idea.

Q: I am 21 years old. I have sex with my girlfriend every month, during which I always ejaculate inside her. None of us prefer using a condom. Also, whenever I use a condom, I am unable to ejaculate. She makes it a point to have an I-pill immediately after sex. Is it harmful to have I-pill once a month?

A: I-Pill, if not used only for emergency purposes, can lead to a problem. You both are taking a huge risk of unwanted pregnancy. Please do use a condom, always.

Ask Sexpert: Troubles of peno-vaginal sex

Q: Three weeks ago, the tip of my penis had burnt and swelled a bit while having peno-vaginal sex. As usual, I cleaned my penis with warm water and the skin turned normal within a few days. But when I indulged again, the same thing happened. It is painful now and cracks have re-appeared. Please help.

A: Have your partner checked for a vaginal infection. And have it treated. A tight foreskin could also be a cause. If so, see a surgeon.

Ask Sexpert: Secrets of women orgasm

Q: I have been married for more than ten years now and my wife says I have never made her orgasm. I have tried extending foreplay, sometimes for over an hour with start-stop technique but to no result. She says it's probably because of my penis size which is five-six inches when erect. She only orgasms when she masturbates. What should I do?

A: During foreplay, continue till she gets an orgasm, then proceed to give her a second one through intercourse. If you finish earlier, stroke her vagina till she reaches orgasm. It is common for women to reach orgasm by masturbation.

Ask Sexpert: How to sexually attract a man?

Q: I am an 18-year-old woman. I am attracted towards a man who doesn’t know about it. I want to have sex with him. How can I make him sexually attracted to me? Is there any harm if I do so?

A: Ask yourself. You are the only person who will be affected. Think of the future carefully before you proceed. If you are in dilemma, I would recommend you call up Keen advisors. Just register for a free account, pick up your favourite advisor, and they will call you (yes, international numbers too). If you register through this link, you'll get 3 minutes absolutely free call. Open your mind to the world renowned advisors and I am sure they will show you the way ahead.

Ask Sexpert: Tablets to prolong ejaculation

Q: I am a 29-year-old man and I got married six months ago. I am not satisfied with my performance in bed. I ejaculate within five minutes of intercourse. This leaves my wife upset as well. I recently heard of Himalaya’s Confido tablets through a friend who admits they make sex more satisfying. Should I go ahead and start using them? Will they have any side-effects? How long do I have to consume them?

A: You may try the tablets twice a day for 20 days. Along with that you should learn better control. Have more foreplay to satisfy your wife. For guaranteed results, Try Ezerex - a proven solution to ensure longer performance and completely satisfied wife.

Ask Sexpert: Operation to get back Virginity?

Q: I am a 24, and I recently had sex with my boyfriend, much against my wishes. I will be getting married to a guy from my native place in two-three months. My future husband is bound to find out that I am not a virgin. How do I answer him? Please suggest any operation to get my virginity back. I don’t want to ruin my marriage.

A: A sorry situation. If you are sure your husband will be curious and will take offence to you not being a virgin, see a gynaecologist who may repair the hymen or will refer someone who will. What a pity it will be split again!

Ask Sexpert: ELISA test & unprotected sex

Q: I am a 22 year-old-man. I had unprotected sex with a prostitute four months ago. A couple of weeks ago I got an ELISA test done under the guidance of a physician and the results were negative. During this period, I had some symptoms of HIV, which is why I underwent the test. How can I ensure I don't have HIV and that I don't need any more tests like the western bolt? Can tension give rise to HIV-like symptoms?

A: You have no infection; confirm with another test after 5 months. Symptoms of HIV are similar to common illnesses except they persist.

Ask Sexpert: Thicker penis & smaller vagina

Q: I have a very small vaginal opening and my husband's penis is quite thick. He finds it uncomfortable to penetrate. Can you suggest some measures we can take to ease out?

A: The vaginal diameter can open and give birth to a baby. You may need to go to a gynaecologist who may provide you with a dilator to be used daily.

Ask Sexpert: Same blood group & Conceiving

Q: I am a 26-year-old woman. My fiancé is 24. Both of us have the same blood group, B-positive. Will be there any problem while conceiving a baby? Also, he suffers from Thalassaemia (minor). I underwent the Thalassaemia test and the results were negative. I am worried about the blood group. Will it affect our married life? Do we need treatment?

A: The blood group will not affect your married life nor conception. The Thalassaemia if kept under watch will not harm life.

Ask Sexpert: Is oral sex safe?

Q: How safe is oral sex as far as HIV transmission is concerned? I have heard that HIV isn’t transmitted via oral sex. I recently indulged in oral sex with a sex worker.

A: There is a possibility of contracting HIV/AIDS via oral sex. However, the chances are much less as compared to indulging in genital sex with an unknown partner. She may have gum bleeding and the virus needs only a small abrasion to enter.

Ask Sexpert: Common toilet and problems with periods

Q: My office has only one bathroom. Is it harmful if men and women use the same bathroom? My periods last only for about two to three days every month. Will this affect my sex life and chances of pregnancy?

A: The answer to all your queries is ‘no’.

Ask Sexpert: Delayed pregnancy & Sex

Q: I have been trying to conceive for the last three months, but haven’t been successful. We have intercourse every alternate day. However, soon after sex, my husband’s semen comes out of the vagina. Please help.

A: It’s normal for most of the semen to flow out. Have sex every alternate day, starting from the eighth day of your periods. It’s best if you get yourself examined by a gynaecologist and your husband has his sperm count examined by a pathologist. Don’t worry. Sometimes, it takes time to conceive. Do not forget to make the act enjoyable.

Ask Sexpert: My girlfriend didn't bleed in first Sex

Q: When I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time, she did not bleed. Does it mean that she might have had sex with someone else before me? After this we had sex many times, but she never never bled. Is it necessary, that she should bleed when we have sex for the first time? I can’t question her about her virginity. Please advise what I should do. I am worried about the future.

A: Either you love her or you do not. It is not essential for bleeding to occur. The hymen might have been split for many other reasons. It is only your mistrust which can ruin your future.

Ask Sexpert: Can woman decide a boy or girl child?

Q: I am a 29-year-old-woman. I am a mother of a baby girl who is almost two years old. My family members are insisting that I bear a baby boy too. Is this possible? Do we have to plan it in any particular way?

A: A male child can only be born if the husband contributes his Y sperm. It is not the fault of a woman if she doesn’t give birth to a male child.

Ask Sexpert: Vacuum developer enlarges Penis?

Q: I read in a magazine that a vacuum developer enlarges the penis and curbs erectile dysfunction as well. Is this true or is it just another misleading advertisement? Please clear my doubt.

A: To my knowledge, there is no instrument that helps enlarge the penis. The vacuum pump available for erectile dysfunction helps create a vacuum in the penis and sucks in blood into the penis and thus brings about an erection. A ring is then slipped over the base to hold the blood back. If you're facing difficulty in maintaining an erection with your partner, please logon to MaxErect.com and get instant medication to improve erection.

Ask Sexpert: Any medication to keep Penis in Flaccid state?

Q: Please suggest some medication to keep the penis in the flaccid state. I get an erection very soon. Also, I enjoy nudity. As soon as I go naked, I get an erection. Please help.

A: Whether your penis is erect or not, you may enjoy your nudity in privacy. In any case, after some time, the penis will subside. Help yourself by not fantasising.

Ask Sexpert: Masturbating habits of men & women

Q: I am a 23-year-old woman. I have the following queries. 1) What percentage of women indulge in masturbation? 2) I masturbate with my fingers and I ensure my nails are cut and clean. Is it okay? 3) Will inserting my finger in the vagina split the hymen?

A: 1) I only know that many more men masturbate as compared to women. 2) Masturbation quells the surging sexual urge and keeps people away from unsafe sex. Hence, it is not harmful. 3) If you insert a finger or an object inside the vagina, you will break your hymen which is prized by many ignorant males as a sign of virginity.

Ask Sexpert: Unprotected sex with boyfriend

Q: I had protected sex with my boyfriend. However, we later realised that the condom was torn. As an emergency action, I washed my vagina and took an I-pill after an hour. My periods are due next week. Are there chances of pregnancy? How do we confirm the same?

A: The condom breaks if it’s stored in a warm environment (wallet or the glove compartment of the car). Or maybe the condom had expired. If the semen entered the vagina, washing may not stop the sperms from entering the uterus. It is best to wait for the periods. You could test for pregnancy with a pregnancy kit available at the local chemist.

Ask Sexpert: Sipping back Foreskin of Penis

Q: 1) Is it necessary to slip back the foreskin when masturbating? 2) To what extent should it slip back? 3)You earlier mentioned that the layer of fat should be accounted when measuring the penis size. How many inches of fat would that be for someone of an average build? 4) Can women masturbate without their hymen getting split? If yes, how?

A: 1) Not necessary. It slides back on its own. 2) Till the base of the glans (head of penis). 3) The pubic fat will vary according to the man’s body fat. There’s no calculation for it. It is important to measure the length correctly (from the pubic bone). 4) It is possible if no object is inserted into the vagina.

Ask Sexpert: Unprotected sex and periods

Q: I am 26 years old. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend and had an I-pill within 72 hours. I did the same the next time we had sex. But this time, I got my periods the very next day, besides my normal periods. I didn't experience any unusual pain, but I am surprised as to how I had periods twice in the same month. Is consuming I-pill harmful in the long run?

A: The I-pill has a high amount of hormone so it is not wise to take it repeatedly. If intercourse is frequent, start with an oral contraceptive tablet. You will have to take it daily for 21 days, take a break for five days then restart. Otherwise, he should use a condom.

Ask Sexpert: Uncomfortable with Pubic hair

Q: I am a 16-year-old boy. I was feeling uncomfortable with my pubic hair so I trimmed them with a scissor and then shaved with a razor. Do I have to keep shaving each time or can I just stop with my first try? Will my hair grow back again?

A: Just like your head hair, the pubic, underarm and chest hair will grow. Trimming them with scissors should be adequate.

Ask Sexpert: Have I contracted HIV after sex in Thailand?

Q: I had protected intercourse with a girl in Thailand. After withdrawing, I found that the condom was intact. Before removing the condom, I noticed that its tip was red. Within a few seconds, the semen inside the condom turned red too. I discarded the condom and thoroughly washed my penis, testicles and pubic area with soap and water. I am scared I may have contracted HIV. Please help.

A: She probably had the start of her periods. It is not clear whether the condom had a break point or was intact. After a few weeks, have a check up done from a dermatologist. He will direct further action. Do not get tense, I don't think you will catch an infection.

Ask Sexpert: Fetish for Female Domination

Q: I am a 30-year-old bachelor. I have a fetish for female domination. I love to be humiliated and tortured by a dominant woman. Now, I am planning to get married. How do I explain this fetish to my future partner? What if she doesn’t accept it? Please help.

A: It’s best to be frank and tell your partner (who preferably should be a dominant person) about it before marriage, rather than facing difficulty later. Women are very understanding.

Ask Sexpert: How to control early Ejaculation

Q: I am 25 years old. During sex, I ejaculate in less than a minute. How do I prolong the act? Please suggest some medication.

A: Learn the ‘stop and start’ method. See a sexpert who can advise medication also.

Ask Sexpert: I-Pill after intercourse

Q: My girlfriend had an I-pill 40 hours after the intercourse. However, her periods are delayed by two days. I am extremely worried. Please recommend a gynaecologist where we can get a pregnancy test done.

A: See the doctor at the FPA India KSK Centre. Call 2309 8267 or 2301 1783.

Ask Sexpert: Oral Sex, Smooching and HIV

Q: Does oral sex increase the risk of contracting the HIV virus? Is it safe to smooch a
person suffering from HIV? Can one get involved in oral sex with an HIV-infected person? Also, do condoms provide 100 per cent safety against HIV if they're not damaged during intercourse? Please reply soon, I am worried.

A: Oral sex can increase chances of HIV but to a much lesser extent than intercourse. A condom is safe but not 100 per cent.

Ask Sexpert: Problem of First Sex

Q: After more than three years of relationship, my girlfriend and I decided to have sex for the first time. Both of us are virgin; I am 26 and she is 22. The problem was that whenever we tried, I could not penetrate her. I lost the firmness of my penis whenever I tried to put on a condom. After two tries, her genitals would start aching. However, I could insert my finger in her vagina. Please suggest how to go about this and what might be the best position to have sex.

A: The standing position can help. A doctor can help you understand better.

Ask Sexpert: Size of chest and Masturbating

Q: I am 24 years old. I have been masturbating since the last 10 years. My chest is in a bad shape. I want know if this could be due to my habit. If yes, please advise what I should do. Please help.

A: It is not due to masturbation. See a chest physician if you are very worried.

Ask Sexpert: Pain in testicles after seeing porn video

Q: I am a 21-year-old man. Whenever I watch porn videos, my testicles start paining. What could be the problem? I still haven't started masturbating.

A: You can masturbate to relieve the tension. It is safe.

Ask Sexpert: Impact of irregular Morning Erections

Q: I am 26 years old. Of late, I haven’t been getting early morning erections. My sex
drive has been diminishing. Is it purely psychological? I am not under any medication.

A: There’s no reason why this should happen. Consult a sexpert to figure out the reason. If you get erections during masturbation, you need not be concerned. Have a blood sugar test done.

Ask Sexpert: Infection & Itching around Vagina

Q: I am 22 years old. Since the past three months, I have been suffering from yeast
infection around my vaginal and urethral opening. The itching ceases during my periods but returns later. Please suggest a cream for this problem. I won’t be able to visit a doctor any time soon.

A: Wash the area carefully after urinating and apply Candid-B cream. You will get better only via oral medication and inserting a vaginal tablet. For this, you need to visit a doctor.

Ask Sexpert: Cure for untimely Erections

Q: I am 21 years old. I get an erection without any reason. Is there an ointment or spray available to get rid of this problem?

A: Have patience. Learn better self-control and your penis will not be so naughty. Do not interfere with nature. Wear loose trousers. A hat would have been useful to hide erections but unfortunately they are out of fashion.

Ask Sexpert: How to increase size of Breasts?

Q: I am 28 years old. I wish to increase my breast size. I have heard there are many gels available in the market for the same. Some people say eating fruits like strawberry helps blood circulation and hence aid increase of breast size. Is this true? Please help.

A: No fruit, no food, cream or gadget will increase the size. Why not pay greater attention to the other attractive parts of your body. Develop them so that people are more attracted to them rather than your breasts.

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Ask Sexpert: Sex during Pregnancy?

Q: My wife is in the first month of pregnancy. Is it safe to have sex? The doctor has
suggested otherwise. Please advise.

A: You must listen to her doctor. During the first three months, the fertilised ovum tries to get a firm place in the uterus and it can be displaced due to sex. Also, during the first three months, the woman experiences nausea and vomiting. It is not necessary to indulge in peno-vaginal sex. You could ask her to help you with masturbation. Some also practice ‘sex between thighs’.

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Ask Sexpert: Instrument to Enlarge Penis

Q: I read in a magazine that a vacuum developer enlarges the penis and curbs erectile dysfunction as well. Is this true or is it just another misleading advertisement? Please clear my doubt.

A: To my knowledge, there is no instrument that helps enlarge the penis. The vacuum pump available for erectile dysfunction helps create a vacuum in the penis and sucks in blood into the penis and thus brings about an erection. A ring is then slipped over the base to hold the blood back.

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Ask Sexpert: Intercourse Position to have a Baby Boy

Q: I am a 29-year-old-woman. I am a mother of a baby girl who is almost two years old. My family members are insisting that I bear a baby boy too. Is this possible? Do we have to plan it in any particular way?

A: A male child can only be born if the husband contributes his Y sperm. It is not the fault of a woman if she doesn’t give birth to a male child.

Ask Sexpert: Sex and Bleeding of Woman

Q: When I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time, she did not bleed. Does it mean that she might have had sex with someone else before me? After this we had sex many times, but she never never bled. Is it necessary, that she should bleed when we have sex for the first time? I can’t question her about her virginity. Please advise what I should do. I am worried about the future.

A: Either you love her or you do not. It is not essential for bleeding to occur. The hymen might have been split for many other reasons. It is only your mistrust which can ruin your future.

Ask Sexpert: Mysterious Penis

Q: My partner always questions me as to how my penis that’s normally 1.5 inches in the flaccid state contracts to one inch during summer and expands during winter. How does it increase to almost six inches during erection? Also, how does it become so hard when there's no bone in the penis?

A: It is a wonder of nature. As you have noticed, the body reacts to environment temperature. The penis has no bone but cavities that fill up with blood to bring about a harder erection.

Ask Sexpert: Risk of improper usage of Condom

Q: I indulged in intercourse for the first time with a sex worker. I used a condom. However, the condom covered only half my penis. Later, I masturbated using the same hand that I had used to remove the condom. Are there chances of HIV? When do I get myself tested?

A: The condom must cover the whole penis for proper safety. You have taken a risk. You may take a rapid test within weeks of exposure. Or else, wait for three to five months to get a standard test done.

Ask Sexpert: Remedy for early Erection

Q: Please suggest some medication to keep the penis in the flaccid state. I get an erection very soon. Also, I enjoy nudity. As soon as I go naked, I get an erection. Please help.

A: Whether your penis is erect or not, you may enjoy your nudity in privacy. In any case, after some time, the penis will subside. Help yourself by not fantasising.

Ask Sexpert: Sex after pregnancy?

Q: I am 29 years old. My wife had her delivery last month. We have abstained from sex for many months due to her pregnancy. I am extremely eager to initiate sex again. When can we resume our normal routine?

A: Her obstetrician should have told you both. You can restart if she has healed and has no discharge. In the meanwhile, what stops you from good foreplay and using your imagination?

Ask Sexpert: Masturbation for Women

Q: I am a 23-year-old woman. I have the following queries. 1) What percentage of women indulge in masturbation? 2) I masturbate with my fingers and I ensure my nails are cut and clean. Is it okay? 3) Will inserting my finger in the vagina split the hymen?

A: 1) I only know that many more men masturbate as compared to women. 2) Masturbation quells the surging sexual urge and keeps people away from unsafe sex. Hence, it is not harmful. 3) If you insert a finger or an object inside the vagina, you will break your hymen which is prized by many ignorant males as a sign of virginity.

Ask Sexpert: Wiping off Semen after Foreplay

Q: I indulged in foreplay with my girlfriend. I wiped my semen off with my fingers and washed them thoroughly. Later, I helped my girlfriend masturbate with the same fingers. Are there chances of pregnancy? She has missed her periods.

A: If you washed them thoroughly, there's no chance of a pregnancy.

Ask Sexpert: Should I have sex with maid in my old age?

Q: I am 46 years old. My wife is unable to satiate my sexual appetite. Aware of this fact, my maid is tempting me to have sex with her. I fear I might give in, but I am afraid of the consequences. How do I convince my wife to have sex every day? Can such sexual appetite at this age lead to expansion of prostrate glands?

A: Talk to your wife and hope she understands. Or else, satisfy yourself with masturbation. Sack the maid and get another one who doesn’t tempt you. You should have your prostate glands examined by a urologist.

Ask Sexpert: Broken Condom and risk of Pregnancy

Q: I had protected sex with my boyfriend. However, we later realised that the condom was torn. As an emergency action, I washed my vagina and took an I-pill after an hour. My periods are due next week. Are there chances of pregnancy? How do we confirm the same?

A: The condom breaks if it’s stored in a warm environment (wallet or the glove compartment of the car). Or maybe the condom had expired. If the semen entered the vagina, washing may not stop the sperms from entering the uterus. It is best to wait for the periods. You could test for pregnancy with a pregnancy kit available at the local chemist.

Ask Sexpert: Pubic Hair & Masturbation for Women

Q: 1) Is it necessary to slip back the foreskin when masturbating? 2) To what extent should it slip back? 3)You earlier mentioned that the layer of fat should be accounted when measuring the penis size. How many inches of fat would that be for someone of an average build? 4) Can women masturbate without their hymen getting split? If yes, how?

A: 1) Not necessary. It slides back on its own. 2) Till the base of the glans (head of penis). 3) The pubic fat will vary according to the man’s body fat. There’s no calculation for it. It is important to measure the length correctly (from the pubic bone). 4) It is possible if no object is inserted into the vagina.

Ask Sexpert: Contraceptive pills & Periods

Q: I am 26 years old. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend and had an I-pill within 72 hours. I did the same the next time we had sex. But this time, I got my periods the very next day, besides my normal periods. I didn't experience any unusual pain, but I am surprised as to how I had periods twice in the same month. Is consuming I-pill harmful in the long run?

A: The I-pill has a high amount of hormone so it is not wise to take it repeatedly. If intercourse is frequent, start with an oral contraceptive tablet. You will have to take it daily for 21 days, take a break for five days then restart. Otherwise, he should use a condom.

Ask Sexpert: Should I shave off Pubic Hair?

Q: I am a 16-year-old boy. I was feeling uncomfortable with my pubic hair so I trimmed them with a scissor and then shaved with a razor. Do I have to keep shaving each time or can I just stop with my first try? Will my hair grow back again?

A: Just like your head hair, the pubic, underarm and chest hair will grow. Trimming them with scissors should be adequate.

Ask Sexpert: Fear of Infection after using Condom

Q: I had protected intercourse with a girl in Thailand. After withdrawing, I found that the condom was intact. Before removing the condom, I noticed that its tip was red. Within a few seconds, the semen inside the condom turned red too. I discarded the condom and thoroughly washed my penis, testicles and pubic area with soap and water. I am scared I may have contracted HIV. Please help.

A: She probably had the start of her periods. It is not clear whether the condom had a break point or was intact. After a few weeks, have a check up done from a dermatologist. He will direct further action. Do not get tense, I don't think you will catch an infection.

Ask Sexpert: How to get rid of body's Sexual Urge?

Q: I am 22 years old. I am extremely religious and want to devote my entire life to God. Hence, I don’t plan to get married. Is there anything I can do or drink or eat so as to get rid of the body’s sexual urge?

A: Sexual thoughts and urges are inborn in a person. Meditation and prayer can keep them under control but not stop them. Accept it as a part of your life and then act in the way you wish.

Ask Sexpert: Too Excited about Sex

Q: I am 25 years old. Whenever I urinate, a watery liquid is secreted from my penis. This also happens whenever I speak to my girlfriend or think abut sex. I have a lean built and have a small penis. I am afraid I will lose my sexual power due to this. Please help.

A: You won’t lose anything. When excited, a lubricating fluid is secreted from a special gland that’s meant for this purpose.

Ask Sexpert: What is Circumcision?

Q: I am unable to slip back my foreskin over the head of my penis. It hurts when I try. My doctor recommends circumcision. Is it a major procedure?

A: The foreskin should easily slip over the head (glans) of the penis, up to the base. The foreskin has glands which secrete a waxy substance. This needs to be cleaned regularly by slipping back the foreskin. During circumcision, the surgeon will (under local anesthesia) remove the foreskin. This will keep the glans exposed. The person can walk of the operation theatre immediately and resume work after two days. He can resume his sex life after 10 to 14 days.

Ask Sexpert: Unprotected Sex

Q: I indulged in foreplay with my girlfriend. At the same time, I masturbated away from her body. After that, I cleaned the area using soap and water. We had unprotected intercourse an hour later during which I didn’t ejaculate at all. Are there chances of pregnancy? My girlfriend’s periods are very irregular. Her periods had stopped a day prior to our intercourse. After how many days after the intercourse should we opt for the urine pregnancy test?

A: Pregnancy is very unlikely but there is always a chance of things going wrong. You can have the test done within a week. In future, I suggest you always use a condom.

Ask Sexpert: Masturbation & Hygiene

Q: I am 17 years old. I have a habit of masturbating with my underwear on. I live in a joint family where my clothes go in for washing with those of other members. Can my sperms cause pregnancy to women in my family?

A: You are very un-hygienic. Why don't you wash your underwear before putting it for washing? The sperms cannot cause a pregnancy.

Ask Sexpert: What is Nightfall?

Q: I am 24 years old. For the past eight years, I have been experiencing nightfall two to three times a week. I stopped masturbating long back. Due to nightfall, I have become very weak. Whenever I get sexually excited, a white sticky fluid is secreted from my penis. Please help.

A: Nightfall is a natural experience. If you masturbate, nightfall will stop. Both are harmless. What you see on getting excited is a lubricating fluid secreted by a special gland meant to do just that. So stop worrying.

Ask Sexpert: How to check Virginity?

Q: How can it be ascertained if my wife is a virgin or not, immediately after marriage?

A: Starting with a suspicion ruins many marriages. Just like she cannot find out whether you had an early experience, you cannot find out either. The absent hymen and bleeding at the first intercourse are no indications for virginity.

Ask Sexpert: Problem with Testicles

Q: I am 27 years old. My testicles are not in the same position. It means that one of the testicles is somewhat ‘upside’ and the other one is ‘downside’. Also, they are of disparate sizes. Please help.

A: It’s a unique description. Don’t worry. The left testicle is most often lower than the right one.

Ask Sexpert: Sex Education before Marriage?

Q: I am a bachelor and will be getting married in a few days. Is it okay for adult men and women to undergo sex education before marriage? Or is it solely a trend adopted from the western civilization? Does it go against Indian customs, and eventually lead to social degradation?

A: Have you never heard of the famous frescos at Khajurao and the Kamasutra which has always helped our ancestors with premarital counselling? No social degradation will take place. On the contrary, your and your partner’s ignorance will be dispelled. There is much to be learnt about the first night, about keeping the fire of desire and companionship alive throughout your life and clearing the misconceptions about sex that you may have.

Ask Sexpert: Color Of Genital Area

Q: My penis is too dark. Is it possible to make its colour similar to my skin tone?

A: The genital skin is darker than the rest of the body. In any case, action is the key word and not the colour. Who is going to see the difference?

Ask Sexpert: Looks & Sex

Q: I am 28 years old. Since I am short and not good-looking, I am finding it difficult to get a partner. I am unable to suppress my sexual desires. Hence, I am planning to visit a sex worker. Is it wrong to satiate my desires? Why is it considered immoral? What precautions should I take?

A: Never mind the morality. You should ensure your safety first. Condoms may break or slip off during the act and if the unknown partner has an infection such as Herpes or HIV/AIDS, you will contract it too and have to live with it for the rest of your life. I think it is not your height, but your attitudes and behaviour that need to examined and changed. You may masturbate or you may get married.

Ask Sexpert: Personal Hygiene

Q: I am 27 years old. I will be getting married next month. I wish to know about personal hygiene habits. Do I need to shave my genital area?

A: You can trim your underarm and pubic hair with a pair of scissors.

Ask Sexpert: Oral Sex & Vaginal Opening

Q: I am 23 years old. I recently got married. My wife insists on oral sex during foreplay and gets exhausted in 20 minutes. Is it safe? Secondly, her vaginal opening is small and she experiences pain during the initial two-three minutes. What do we do?

A: Oral sex is safe with a known partner. Many married couples include it in their foreplay, even though it is considered illegal by our government. Her exhaustion is actually her reaching an orgasm. With a little rest she and you can continue as women experience multiple orgasms. The vagina is expandable and can expand to deliver a baby. So it can obviously stretch to accommodate a penis. Ensure that she is well lubricated.

Ask Sexpert: Am I Virgin?

Q: I am a 21-year-old virgin. My boyfriend always insists on fingering me. I am scared that if the hymen breaks, I will bleed. How do I explain this to him? I am also scared to lose my virginity.

A: If he inserts his finger your hymen may split. However, that does not mean you are not a virgin – you will be one until you have intercourse. The bleeding following the split is small and stops soon. You will have to give him a firm no or prepare him to leave for greener pastures.

Ask Sexpert: Big Breasts

Q: I am 21 years old. My problem is that I have very big breasts. Is there any medicine to reduce their size?

A: You may have to live with them as only cosmetic surgery can help you. You have an advantage as many men are attracted to big breasts. Finally, you can try to put on more weight.

Ask Sexpert: Hardness Of Penis

Q: I am 33 years old. When erect, my penis head is softer than the base. The hardness is maintained to about three-fourth of the penis length. However, the head is comparatively weaker. Is this normal? Do I need medical attention? Also, is it okay to have the penis partially covered with foreskin during erection?

A: The glans is made up of spongy tissue. Hence, what you feel is normal. So long as the foreskin slips back, up to the base of the head of the penis, you require no treatment.

Ask Sexpert: Unsafe Premarital Sex

Q: I am engaged and will be getting married soon. My fiancée and I have mutually decided to indulge in pre-marital sex. We don’t wish to use a condom. Please advise an alternate contraceptive method.

A: She could start an oral contraceptive pill e.g. Ovral-L, one pill everyday for 21 days, starting from the fifth day of her periods. The pills are effective after the first cycle. It’s best to wait till marriage which is soon to take place. You both can indulge in many things other than intercourse.

Ask Sexpert: Masturbation & Periods

Q: Can masturbation delay a woman’s periods? Also, if my girlfriend opts for a blood test to detect pregnancy, does she need to go through the usual blood test or for a special blood test that’s exclusively meant to detect pregnancy?

A: Masturbation should not delay the period. A urine pregnancy test – the kit available from the chemist can give an indication of pregnancy. No need for a blood test.

Ask Sexpert: Problems With Ejaculation

Q: I am a 28-year-old bachelor. I masturbate four to five times a week. I enjoy it, but face a problem during ejaculation. My semen comes out quite slowly, falling in the form of droplets from the tip of my penis. My friend told me that it should shoot out like a projectile. Is this normal? Please explain. I am going to get married in a few months. Will this affect my sex life? What is the accepted velocity of ejaculation?

A: You are not in the army! As long as the drops fall inside your partner’s vagina, it is good enough for conception. You are normal.

Ask Sexpert: Non-Responsive Wife

Q: I am 23-year-old married man. Whenever I have sex with my wife, I don’t get a proper response from her. She says she is shy. I have spoken with her about this. She promises that it won’t happen again, but the situation remains the same. I am not satisfied with my sex life at all. I am very passionate about sex. What should I do?

A: One of the great pleasures is to arouse your partner to active participation. It can only be possible when you are skilled at foreplay. Be gentle, stimulate her by touch – even her genital areas – and continue till she has an orgasm before having intercourse. Convince her that marriage has given both of you the chance to have sex the way you want to have it. Have patience and remember to never lower her self-esteem.

Ask Sexpert: Male Nipples

Q: I am a 17-year-old boy. I have a problem with my nipples since the last three years. They are unusually big. They only become normal when I press them back to shape or when I feel cold. Otherwise they remain in a disc-like shape. What do I do about this? Please don’t tell me to see a doctor because I’ve already done it, he said there was no treatment for this. Please recommend some exercises or medicines.

A: Live with what you have. Nobody is bothered about your nipples except yourself. Get over your inferiority complex.

Ask Sexpert: French Kissing & Pregnancy

Q: I am a 23-year-old man and my girlfriend is a year elder to me. Last fortnight we indulged in a French kiss which lasted for 10 to 15 minutes. Her period, which was due three days back, hasn’t started. She is getting very scared because she thinks it is because of the kiss. She is not ready to kiss me any more. I am really worried. Can it be true? Please help.

A: From what I know of French kissing – and I hope you’re referring to the same – there is no chance of pregnancy. Her period may have been delayed because of excitement.

Ask Sexpert: Donating Sperms

Q: I am a 34-year-old man and I stay in Ulhasnagar. I want to donate my sperms. Please tell me of any hospital or organisation in and around my suburb where I can do the same. Do they charge for it?

A: See a nearby pathologist for more information. In fact, as a donor, you may get paid!

Ask Sexpert: Early Orgasms

Q: I am 30 years old. I got married five years back. Earlier, a sexual act lasting for 30 minutes was enough to satisfy me. However, these days, even 60 to 90 minutes doesn’t suffice. We indulge in adequate foreplay. I have been using Copper T for last three years. Is it responsible for my problem?

A: Copper T is not known to decrease desire. There must be another reason. Try to identify and correct it. Take an extended holiday. Relive your romance. Request your husband to increase the foreplay duration till you reach an orgasm. He should enter after that. If he finishes early, you may continue stimulation of genitals till you reach a second orgasm, or even a third.

Ask Sexpert: Masturbation & Self Control

Q: I am 24 years old. Since many years, I have been masturbating every day. I cannot control my habit. I wanted to know: 1) Will it affect my sperm production? 2) Will it affect my health?

A: As you are an adult, I am sure with a little effort you will get out of the habit and masturbate only to relieve genuine sexual arousal. Practice self-control. You will succeed after few months. To answer your questions: 1) No. Sperms will last you a lifetime. 2) Masturbation is harmless, but must be used rationally.

Ask Sexpert: Kissing & HIV

Q: I am 17 years old. Three months ago, my online friend came to meet me. She tried to seduce me and kissed me. I asked her to leave, but later I noticed a cut on my lips. Am I infected with HIV? I have also developed rashes on my body — some look like ant bites and others look like red colour spots.

A: Visit your family doctor. Tell him everything and get a check-up done. He will conduct appropriate tests. The rashes may not be serious. He will prescribe you proper medication. Share your tension with your parent, an elder brother or someone who you trust. I don’t think you are infected but it’s good to be sure.

Ask Sexpert: Masturbation & Stress

Q: I am a 27-year-old man working in an MNC. I have been masturbating for the last three years. I want to stop it but I can't control myself. Because of work pressure, I masturbate for relief. I don't smoke or drink. I get sleep only after masturbating. WilI this lifestyle affect me?

A: Masturbation is no answer for your stress, nor is it a sleeping tablet! Instead, cope with your work better, leave all the day's problems outside the bedroom, have a hot water bath, do some light exercise and take a cup of hot milk at bedtime. Yoga too will help you.

Ask Sexpert: Safe use of Condoms

Q: I am 32 and my wife is 30. We use protection while having intercourse. Is there any other safe method to prevent pregnancy other than condoms both for men and women?

A: The condom is the safest and most convenient contraceptive. At times if you wish to have sex without it, choose the first and last seven days of her period counting from the first day.

Ask Sexpert: Frequent Masturbation

Q: I am 20 years old. I have a bad habit of masturbating rigourously. Due to this my penis is all scratched up. I ignored this for some years but now tiny hair has started growing in the area which makes my penis look bad. Can they be removed permanently?

A: Sorry, I will not be able to help you. Use a pair of scissors and trim. It is up to you to feel good or bad. Nobody is going to admire your penis except you.

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