Ways to boost your lover's libido (1/2)

Sexual incompatibility among partners can be attributed to many events like childbirth, stress, or loss of a loved one. Other sexual difficulties, like problems attaining orgasm, a waning sex drive, or erectile dysfunction can also have one partner far from looking forward to lovemaking.

But, all the above problems can be dealt with the help of your doctor and/or sex therapist, reports Fox News. And if all the above reasons do not explain your case, then you should assess how your relationship has evolved, and do something to regenerate your partner's passion.

Simple actions like holding hands, playful pats and lusty lip-locks can have both of you craving a deeper sexual connection in no time. And here are some of the tried-and-tested ways to sell your partner the idea of more sex:


1. Entice your partner with orgasm exploration. Read up on the many types of peaking men and women can have, and let your lover know that you want to explore how both of you can reach new climactic heights.

2. Incorporate fantasy throughout the day. Plant seeds in your partner's head of things you know spark interest. Share a hot thought you had involving an erotic moment you once shared. Describe body parts you miss touching and how you're consumed with longing. Rent a movie with a sexy or romantic storyline. Pursue anything that will put your lover in a sensual state of mind.

3. Stay connected when you do have sex. Don't make sex about physical gratification alone. Truly worship your lover and hail the lovemaking as a celebratory experience? One you can't get enough of.

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Choosing the right contraceptives (3)

--- Continued from PART 1 & PART 2 of the series ---

Here’s a list of some popular contraceptive methods along with their risks and benefits:

5. Intrauterine Systems (IUS)

• In addition to being a contraceptive, it usually makes your periods shorter, lighter and pain-free. So it’s often used in order to treat period problems. It contains a reservoir full of female hormone, ‘progestogen’. This hormone is steadily released into your womb, day after day, for as long as you use the device, making it more effective in preventing pregnancies. The IUS can last for up to five years, after that, it’s ‘worn out’ – so you would need to have it changed.
• Risks: Irregular periods, headaches, acne and breast tenderness.
• Benefits: It starts to protect you against pregnancy as soon as it’s been put in. Incidentally, if you decide that you now want to get pregnant, your fertility should return immediately after the device is removed. You can keep it in for five years and it usually gets rid of your period pain. Also, after a few months, it should reduce menstrual flow to little or nothing.
• Medical advice: Women with unexplained vaginal bleeding, pelvic infections, structural abnormalities of the womb or cervix and heart valve trouble should not use it. It is suitable for those who have had children.
• Warning: IUS can occasionally fall out or penetrate the wall of the womb (‘perforation’), especially during insertion.
  

Besides these methods, one always has the conventional option of the natural contraception (Withdrawal method and Rhythm method). Do not forget, majority still prefer the popular condoms, which are 98 per cent safe and also act as a protection against sexually transmitted diseases. However, it is very important to consult your doctor before you decide to choose any of the contraceptive methods besides the condoms. Off late, emergency contraceptive pills have become very popular but it is advisable to take only in EMERGENCY.

Regular intake may cause serious harm. Your gynecologist will let you know what will suit your body type and how to go about it. If you are taking pills, don’t just take any pill available in the market. It might have serious side effects. Your doctor knows what is best for you so never hesitate to discuss all with her, as the decision on the contraceptive of choice should be based on the right information, and not myths.

Choosing the right contraceptives (2)

--- Continued from PART 1 ---

Here’s a list of some popular contraceptive methods along with their risks and benefits:

3. Intrauterine Devices (IUDs)

• Today’s IUDs are almost 98% effective, which makes them not all that far off being as good as the Pill. Intrauterine devices (IUDs) have remained quite popular during the 21st century, especially among women who have had babies. Most IUDs are now T shaped. They’re made of plastic and copper, sometimes with a little silver inside. They sit in your womb and prevent you from getting pregnant.
  
• They do this in three main ways – they prevent your partner’s sperm from getting through your womb and into your tubes, they alter the secretions (mucus) in your cervix, creating a further barrier for sperm and they affect your womb lining – making it less likely to ‘accept’ an egg. IUDs are not so easy to insert in young women who have not had children.
• Risk: After getting and IUD inserted the initial two or three periods may become heavier and longer and even painful. You might become anemic and prone to infection.
• Benefits: A safe method if suits you and you can chose how long you want it inside you. It generally comes in 3, 5 and 10 year validity pack from the date of insertion.
• Medical advice: young, sexually active women must be carefully screened for sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) before having an IUD put in.
• Warning: Avoid intercourse for a week after you have got an IUD put in, as you would be risking infection by doing so!
  

4. Contraceptive Injections

• These injections contain hormones. When injected into a muscle (usually in the buttock), the medication keeps you from getting pregnant for a considerable period of time. Most jabs are for a period of two to three months.
• Risk: Heavy or infrequent periods, headache, weight gain, dizziness, weakness and tummy ache.
• Benefits: You don’t have to remember to keep on taking anything, which makes this method very useful for the many people who forget Pills!
• Medical advice: Not suitable for women who are already suffering from undiagnosed abnormal vaginal bleeding, migraine or any hormonal problem.
• Warning: Do remember to turn up for your next injection on time. Many of the pregnancies that occur in people who are ‘on the jab’ happen because somehow the injection isn’t taken on time.

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