Ask Sexpert: Common toilet and problems with periods

Q: My office has only one bathroom. Is it harmful if men and women use the same bathroom? My periods last only for about two to three days every month. Will this affect my sex life and chances of pregnancy?

A: The answer to all your queries is ‘no’.

Ask Sexpert: Delayed pregnancy & Sex

Q: I have been trying to conceive for the last three months, but haven’t been successful. We have intercourse every alternate day. However, soon after sex, my husband’s semen comes out of the vagina. Please help.

A: It’s normal for most of the semen to flow out. Have sex every alternate day, starting from the eighth day of your periods. It’s best if you get yourself examined by a gynaecologist and your husband has his sperm count examined by a pathologist. Don’t worry. Sometimes, it takes time to conceive. Do not forget to make the act enjoyable.

Ask Sexpert: My girlfriend didn't bleed in first Sex

Q: When I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time, she did not bleed. Does it mean that she might have had sex with someone else before me? After this we had sex many times, but she never never bled. Is it necessary, that she should bleed when we have sex for the first time? I can’t question her about her virginity. Please advise what I should do. I am worried about the future.

A: Either you love her or you do not. It is not essential for bleeding to occur. The hymen might have been split for many other reasons. It is only your mistrust which can ruin your future.

Ask Sexpert: Can woman decide a boy or girl child?

Q: I am a 29-year-old-woman. I am a mother of a baby girl who is almost two years old. My family members are insisting that I bear a baby boy too. Is this possible? Do we have to plan it in any particular way?

A: A male child can only be born if the husband contributes his Y sperm. It is not the fault of a woman if she doesn’t give birth to a male child.

Ask Sexpert: Vacuum developer enlarges Penis?

Q: I read in a magazine that a vacuum developer enlarges the penis and curbs erectile dysfunction as well. Is this true or is it just another misleading advertisement? Please clear my doubt.

A: To my knowledge, there is no instrument that helps enlarge the penis. The vacuum pump available for erectile dysfunction helps create a vacuum in the penis and sucks in blood into the penis and thus brings about an erection. A ring is then slipped over the base to hold the blood back. If you're facing difficulty in maintaining an erection with your partner, please logon to MaxErect.com and get instant medication to improve erection.

Ask Sexpert: Any medication to keep Penis in Flaccid state?

Q: Please suggest some medication to keep the penis in the flaccid state. I get an erection very soon. Also, I enjoy nudity. As soon as I go naked, I get an erection. Please help.

A: Whether your penis is erect or not, you may enjoy your nudity in privacy. In any case, after some time, the penis will subside. Help yourself by not fantasising.

Ask Sexpert: Masturbating habits of men & women

Q: I am a 23-year-old woman. I have the following queries. 1) What percentage of women indulge in masturbation? 2) I masturbate with my fingers and I ensure my nails are cut and clean. Is it okay? 3) Will inserting my finger in the vagina split the hymen?

A: 1) I only know that many more men masturbate as compared to women. 2) Masturbation quells the surging sexual urge and keeps people away from unsafe sex. Hence, it is not harmful. 3) If you insert a finger or an object inside the vagina, you will break your hymen which is prized by many ignorant males as a sign of virginity.

Ask Sexpert: Unprotected sex with boyfriend

Q: I had protected sex with my boyfriend. However, we later realised that the condom was torn. As an emergency action, I washed my vagina and took an I-pill after an hour. My periods are due next week. Are there chances of pregnancy? How do we confirm the same?

A: The condom breaks if it’s stored in a warm environment (wallet or the glove compartment of the car). Or maybe the condom had expired. If the semen entered the vagina, washing may not stop the sperms from entering the uterus. It is best to wait for the periods. You could test for pregnancy with a pregnancy kit available at the local chemist.

Ask Sexpert: Sipping back Foreskin of Penis

Q: 1) Is it necessary to slip back the foreskin when masturbating? 2) To what extent should it slip back? 3)You earlier mentioned that the layer of fat should be accounted when measuring the penis size. How many inches of fat would that be for someone of an average build? 4) Can women masturbate without their hymen getting split? If yes, how?

A: 1) Not necessary. It slides back on its own. 2) Till the base of the glans (head of penis). 3) The pubic fat will vary according to the man’s body fat. There’s no calculation for it. It is important to measure the length correctly (from the pubic bone). 4) It is possible if no object is inserted into the vagina.

Ask Sexpert: Unprotected sex and periods

Q: I am 26 years old. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend and had an I-pill within 72 hours. I did the same the next time we had sex. But this time, I got my periods the very next day, besides my normal periods. I didn't experience any unusual pain, but I am surprised as to how I had periods twice in the same month. Is consuming I-pill harmful in the long run?

A: The I-pill has a high amount of hormone so it is not wise to take it repeatedly. If intercourse is frequent, start with an oral contraceptive tablet. You will have to take it daily for 21 days, take a break for five days then restart. Otherwise, he should use a condom.

Ask Sexpert: Uncomfortable with Pubic hair

Q: I am a 16-year-old boy. I was feeling uncomfortable with my pubic hair so I trimmed them with a scissor and then shaved with a razor. Do I have to keep shaving each time or can I just stop with my first try? Will my hair grow back again?

A: Just like your head hair, the pubic, underarm and chest hair will grow. Trimming them with scissors should be adequate.

Ask Sexpert: Have I contracted HIV after sex in Thailand?

Q: I had protected intercourse with a girl in Thailand. After withdrawing, I found that the condom was intact. Before removing the condom, I noticed that its tip was red. Within a few seconds, the semen inside the condom turned red too. I discarded the condom and thoroughly washed my penis, testicles and pubic area with soap and water. I am scared I may have contracted HIV. Please help.

A: She probably had the start of her periods. It is not clear whether the condom had a break point or was intact. After a few weeks, have a check up done from a dermatologist. He will direct further action. Do not get tense, I don't think you will catch an infection.

Ask Sexpert: Fetish for Female Domination

Q: I am a 30-year-old bachelor. I have a fetish for female domination. I love to be humiliated and tortured by a dominant woman. Now, I am planning to get married. How do I explain this fetish to my future partner? What if she doesn’t accept it? Please help.

A: It’s best to be frank and tell your partner (who preferably should be a dominant person) about it before marriage, rather than facing difficulty later. Women are very understanding.

Ask Sexpert: How to control early Ejaculation

Q: I am 25 years old. During sex, I ejaculate in less than a minute. How do I prolong the act? Please suggest some medication.

A: Learn the ‘stop and start’ method. See a sexpert who can advise medication also.

Ask Sexpert: I-Pill after intercourse

Q: My girlfriend had an I-pill 40 hours after the intercourse. However, her periods are delayed by two days. I am extremely worried. Please recommend a gynaecologist where we can get a pregnancy test done.

A: See the doctor at the FPA India KSK Centre. Call 2309 8267 or 2301 1783.

Ask Sexpert: Oral Sex, Smooching and HIV

Q: Does oral sex increase the risk of contracting the HIV virus? Is it safe to smooch a
person suffering from HIV? Can one get involved in oral sex with an HIV-infected person? Also, do condoms provide 100 per cent safety against HIV if they're not damaged during intercourse? Please reply soon, I am worried.

A: Oral sex can increase chances of HIV but to a much lesser extent than intercourse. A condom is safe but not 100 per cent.

Ask Sexpert: Problem of First Sex

Q: After more than three years of relationship, my girlfriend and I decided to have sex for the first time. Both of us are virgin; I am 26 and she is 22. The problem was that whenever we tried, I could not penetrate her. I lost the firmness of my penis whenever I tried to put on a condom. After two tries, her genitals would start aching. However, I could insert my finger in her vagina. Please suggest how to go about this and what might be the best position to have sex.

A: The standing position can help. A doctor can help you understand better.

Ask Sexpert: Size of chest and Masturbating

Q: I am 24 years old. I have been masturbating since the last 10 years. My chest is in a bad shape. I want know if this could be due to my habit. If yes, please advise what I should do. Please help.

A: It is not due to masturbation. See a chest physician if you are very worried.

Ask Sexpert: Pain in testicles after seeing porn video

Q: I am a 21-year-old man. Whenever I watch porn videos, my testicles start paining. What could be the problem? I still haven't started masturbating.

A: You can masturbate to relieve the tension. It is safe.

Ask Sexpert: Impact of irregular Morning Erections

Q: I am 26 years old. Of late, I haven’t been getting early morning erections. My sex
drive has been diminishing. Is it purely psychological? I am not under any medication.

A: There’s no reason why this should happen. Consult a sexpert to figure out the reason. If you get erections during masturbation, you need not be concerned. Have a blood sugar test done.

Ask Sexpert: Infection & Itching around Vagina

Q: I am 22 years old. Since the past three months, I have been suffering from yeast
infection around my vaginal and urethral opening. The itching ceases during my periods but returns later. Please suggest a cream for this problem. I won’t be able to visit a doctor any time soon.

A: Wash the area carefully after urinating and apply Candid-B cream. You will get better only via oral medication and inserting a vaginal tablet. For this, you need to visit a doctor.

Ask Sexpert: Cure for untimely Erections

Q: I am 21 years old. I get an erection without any reason. Is there an ointment or spray available to get rid of this problem?

A: Have patience. Learn better self-control and your penis will not be so naughty. Do not interfere with nature. Wear loose trousers. A hat would have been useful to hide erections but unfortunately they are out of fashion.

Ask Sexpert: How to increase size of Breasts?

Q: I am 28 years old. I wish to increase my breast size. I have heard there are many gels available in the market for the same. Some people say eating fruits like strawberry helps blood circulation and hence aid increase of breast size. Is this true? Please help.

A: No fruit, no food, cream or gadget will increase the size. Why not pay greater attention to the other attractive parts of your body. Develop them so that people are more attracted to them rather than your breasts.

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Ask Sexpert: Sex during Pregnancy?

Q: My wife is in the first month of pregnancy. Is it safe to have sex? The doctor has
suggested otherwise. Please advise.

A: You must listen to her doctor. During the first three months, the fertilised ovum tries to get a firm place in the uterus and it can be displaced due to sex. Also, during the first three months, the woman experiences nausea and vomiting. It is not necessary to indulge in peno-vaginal sex. You could ask her to help you with masturbation. Some also practice ‘sex between thighs’.

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Ask Sexpert: Instrument to Enlarge Penis

Q: I read in a magazine that a vacuum developer enlarges the penis and curbs erectile dysfunction as well. Is this true or is it just another misleading advertisement? Please clear my doubt.

A: To my knowledge, there is no instrument that helps enlarge the penis. The vacuum pump available for erectile dysfunction helps create a vacuum in the penis and sucks in blood into the penis and thus brings about an erection. A ring is then slipped over the base to hold the blood back.

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Ask Sexpert: Intercourse Position to have a Baby Boy

Q: I am a 29-year-old-woman. I am a mother of a baby girl who is almost two years old. My family members are insisting that I bear a baby boy too. Is this possible? Do we have to plan it in any particular way?

A: A male child can only be born if the husband contributes his Y sperm. It is not the fault of a woman if she doesn’t give birth to a male child.

Ask Sexpert: Sex and Bleeding of Woman

Q: When I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time, she did not bleed. Does it mean that she might have had sex with someone else before me? After this we had sex many times, but she never never bled. Is it necessary, that she should bleed when we have sex for the first time? I can’t question her about her virginity. Please advise what I should do. I am worried about the future.

A: Either you love her or you do not. It is not essential for bleeding to occur. The hymen might have been split for many other reasons. It is only your mistrust which can ruin your future.

Ask Sexpert: Mysterious Penis

Q: My partner always questions me as to how my penis that’s normally 1.5 inches in the flaccid state contracts to one inch during summer and expands during winter. How does it increase to almost six inches during erection? Also, how does it become so hard when there's no bone in the penis?

A: It is a wonder of nature. As you have noticed, the body reacts to environment temperature. The penis has no bone but cavities that fill up with blood to bring about a harder erection.

Ask Sexpert: Risk of improper usage of Condom

Q: I indulged in intercourse for the first time with a sex worker. I used a condom. However, the condom covered only half my penis. Later, I masturbated using the same hand that I had used to remove the condom. Are there chances of HIV? When do I get myself tested?

A: The condom must cover the whole penis for proper safety. You have taken a risk. You may take a rapid test within weeks of exposure. Or else, wait for three to five months to get a standard test done.

Ask Sexpert: Remedy for early Erection

Q: Please suggest some medication to keep the penis in the flaccid state. I get an erection very soon. Also, I enjoy nudity. As soon as I go naked, I get an erection. Please help.

A: Whether your penis is erect or not, you may enjoy your nudity in privacy. In any case, after some time, the penis will subside. Help yourself by not fantasising.

Ask Sexpert: Sex after pregnancy?

Q: I am 29 years old. My wife had her delivery last month. We have abstained from sex for many months due to her pregnancy. I am extremely eager to initiate sex again. When can we resume our normal routine?

A: Her obstetrician should have told you both. You can restart if she has healed and has no discharge. In the meanwhile, what stops you from good foreplay and using your imagination?

Ask Sexpert: Masturbation for Women

Q: I am a 23-year-old woman. I have the following queries. 1) What percentage of women indulge in masturbation? 2) I masturbate with my fingers and I ensure my nails are cut and clean. Is it okay? 3) Will inserting my finger in the vagina split the hymen?

A: 1) I only know that many more men masturbate as compared to women. 2) Masturbation quells the surging sexual urge and keeps people away from unsafe sex. Hence, it is not harmful. 3) If you insert a finger or an object inside the vagina, you will break your hymen which is prized by many ignorant males as a sign of virginity.

Ask Sexpert: Wiping off Semen after Foreplay

Q: I indulged in foreplay with my girlfriend. I wiped my semen off with my fingers and washed them thoroughly. Later, I helped my girlfriend masturbate with the same fingers. Are there chances of pregnancy? She has missed her periods.

A: If you washed them thoroughly, there's no chance of a pregnancy.

Ask Sexpert: Should I have sex with maid in my old age?

Q: I am 46 years old. My wife is unable to satiate my sexual appetite. Aware of this fact, my maid is tempting me to have sex with her. I fear I might give in, but I am afraid of the consequences. How do I convince my wife to have sex every day? Can such sexual appetite at this age lead to expansion of prostrate glands?

A: Talk to your wife and hope she understands. Or else, satisfy yourself with masturbation. Sack the maid and get another one who doesn’t tempt you. You should have your prostate glands examined by a urologist.

Ask Sexpert: Broken Condom and risk of Pregnancy

Q: I had protected sex with my boyfriend. However, we later realised that the condom was torn. As an emergency action, I washed my vagina and took an I-pill after an hour. My periods are due next week. Are there chances of pregnancy? How do we confirm the same?

A: The condom breaks if it’s stored in a warm environment (wallet or the glove compartment of the car). Or maybe the condom had expired. If the semen entered the vagina, washing may not stop the sperms from entering the uterus. It is best to wait for the periods. You could test for pregnancy with a pregnancy kit available at the local chemist.

Ask Sexpert: Pubic Hair & Masturbation for Women

Q: 1) Is it necessary to slip back the foreskin when masturbating? 2) To what extent should it slip back? 3)You earlier mentioned that the layer of fat should be accounted when measuring the penis size. How many inches of fat would that be for someone of an average build? 4) Can women masturbate without their hymen getting split? If yes, how?

A: 1) Not necessary. It slides back on its own. 2) Till the base of the glans (head of penis). 3) The pubic fat will vary according to the man’s body fat. There’s no calculation for it. It is important to measure the length correctly (from the pubic bone). 4) It is possible if no object is inserted into the vagina.

Ask Sexpert: Contraceptive pills & Periods

Q: I am 26 years old. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend and had an I-pill within 72 hours. I did the same the next time we had sex. But this time, I got my periods the very next day, besides my normal periods. I didn't experience any unusual pain, but I am surprised as to how I had periods twice in the same month. Is consuming I-pill harmful in the long run?

A: The I-pill has a high amount of hormone so it is not wise to take it repeatedly. If intercourse is frequent, start with an oral contraceptive tablet. You will have to take it daily for 21 days, take a break for five days then restart. Otherwise, he should use a condom.

Ask Sexpert: Should I shave off Pubic Hair?

Q: I am a 16-year-old boy. I was feeling uncomfortable with my pubic hair so I trimmed them with a scissor and then shaved with a razor. Do I have to keep shaving each time or can I just stop with my first try? Will my hair grow back again?

A: Just like your head hair, the pubic, underarm and chest hair will grow. Trimming them with scissors should be adequate.

Ask Sexpert: Fear of Infection after using Condom

Q: I had protected intercourse with a girl in Thailand. After withdrawing, I found that the condom was intact. Before removing the condom, I noticed that its tip was red. Within a few seconds, the semen inside the condom turned red too. I discarded the condom and thoroughly washed my penis, testicles and pubic area with soap and water. I am scared I may have contracted HIV. Please help.

A: She probably had the start of her periods. It is not clear whether the condom had a break point or was intact. After a few weeks, have a check up done from a dermatologist. He will direct further action. Do not get tense, I don't think you will catch an infection.

Ask Sexpert: How to get rid of body's Sexual Urge?

Q: I am 22 years old. I am extremely religious and want to devote my entire life to God. Hence, I don’t plan to get married. Is there anything I can do or drink or eat so as to get rid of the body’s sexual urge?

A: Sexual thoughts and urges are inborn in a person. Meditation and prayer can keep them under control but not stop them. Accept it as a part of your life and then act in the way you wish.

Ask Sexpert: Too Excited about Sex

Q: I am 25 years old. Whenever I urinate, a watery liquid is secreted from my penis. This also happens whenever I speak to my girlfriend or think abut sex. I have a lean built and have a small penis. I am afraid I will lose my sexual power due to this. Please help.

A: You won’t lose anything. When excited, a lubricating fluid is secreted from a special gland that’s meant for this purpose.

Ask Sexpert: What is Circumcision?

Q: I am unable to slip back my foreskin over the head of my penis. It hurts when I try. My doctor recommends circumcision. Is it a major procedure?

A: The foreskin should easily slip over the head (glans) of the penis, up to the base. The foreskin has glands which secrete a waxy substance. This needs to be cleaned regularly by slipping back the foreskin. During circumcision, the surgeon will (under local anesthesia) remove the foreskin. This will keep the glans exposed. The person can walk of the operation theatre immediately and resume work after two days. He can resume his sex life after 10 to 14 days.

Ask Sexpert: Unprotected Sex

Q: I indulged in foreplay with my girlfriend. At the same time, I masturbated away from her body. After that, I cleaned the area using soap and water. We had unprotected intercourse an hour later during which I didn’t ejaculate at all. Are there chances of pregnancy? My girlfriend’s periods are very irregular. Her periods had stopped a day prior to our intercourse. After how many days after the intercourse should we opt for the urine pregnancy test?

A: Pregnancy is very unlikely but there is always a chance of things going wrong. You can have the test done within a week. In future, I suggest you always use a condom.