Some myths about sex explained (1)

Dr Yvonne Fulbright, founder of Sexuality Source Inc, breaks more myths on sex

Myth 1: Viagra is 100 per cent effective... Reality: Popping the blue pill is not the effective path to an amorous evening. Fulbright emphasises that men bearing this notion needed to think again because a desire component is needed for males to become sexually aroused and attain erection. So if you are "not in the mood", there is little that the magic pill can do.

Myth 2: Virgins have hymens... Reality: The presence of a hymen is a popular indicator of a woman being a virgin, and it's absence, a sure sign of intercourse. However Fulbright debunks the myth saying that this might not be true for all women - girls are born with hymens of various sizes and openings. Some might appear to have no hymen at all. Also physical activities such as bicycling, horseback riding, gymnastics, etc. can stretch the hymen and even break it. Hence the hymen is not an indicator of "virtue".

Myth 3: Withdrawal is birth control... Reality: Fulbright says pregnancy could occur any time unprotected intercourse was indulged in, whether or not the male had climaxed. A bit of sperm leaks out of the penis even before ejaculation. Also, if a man ejaculates close to the outside of the vagina, the sperm can swim up the vagina, resulting in conception.
Thus, according to Fulbright, withdrawal is not recommended as a form of birth control, especially for males who are sexually inexperienced.

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How to kiss in the best way?

The ways of expressing affection may have changed but kissing hasn’t. Read on to learn the finer nuances of kissing...

Butterfly Kiss

With your faces less than a breath away, open and close your eyelids against your partners. If done correctly, the fluttering sensation will match the one in your heart.

Cheek Kiss

This is a friendly, "I really like you" kiss. Often the preferred kissing method of a first date. With your hands on your partner’s shoulders, gently brush your lips across her cheek.

Earlobe Kiss

Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises, as ears are sensitised noise detectors.

Foot Kiss

An erotic and romantic gesture. It may tickle, but relax and enjoy it! To give a toe kiss by gently suck the toes and then lightly kissing the foot. It helps to gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.

Forehead Kiss

The "motherly" kiss or "just friends" kiss. The forehead kiss can be a comforting kiss to anyone. Simply brush your lips lightly across the crown of their head.

French Kiss

The kiss involving the tongue. Some call this the "Soul Kiss" because the life and soul are thought to pass through the mouth’s breath in the exchange across tongues. Surprisingly, the French call this "The English Kiss".

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Ways to boost your lover's libido (2/2)

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Sexual incompatibility among partners can be attributed to many events like childbirth, stress, or loss of a loved one. Other sexual difficulties, like problems attaining orgasm, a waning sex drive, or erectile dysfunction can also have one partner far from looking forward to lovemaking.

And here are some of the tried-and-tested ways to sell your partner the idea of more sex:

1. Entice your partner with orgasm exploration.

2. Incorporate fantasy throughout the day.

3. Stay connected when you do have sex.

4. Keep things novel and spicy in and out of the bedroom. In exploring what turns both of you on when it comes to sex, you can broaden your sexual repertoire. You want to make your lover feel like you're embarking on an adventure, not just going for a simple roll in the hay.

5. Look your best. While we can't look like our supermodel selves 24/7, putting effort into your appearance helps you put out more persuasions. You'll be harder to resist.

6. Engage in verbal foreplay. While men often need sex to feel loved, women often need to feel loved before they engage in sex. The more you engage in all types of erotic talk affectionate, romantic, sexy - the more you'll pique your lover's interest.

7. Consider how you size up sexual satisfaction. Sex doesn't always have to end in intercourse. So rethink your pleasure and the different ways you can realize sexual satisfaction that doesn't necessarily require going "all the way."

Lastly, don't forget that honesty is the best policy. Talking openly to each other about what sex means to you without being demanding or putting expectations on each other is often necessary.