Complications of Pregnancy & Sex

Q: I am 26 years old. My wife is 25 years old. 1) We plan to have a baby only after two years, but our parents are forcing us to hurry up. They say that when a woman turns 30, there are chances of complications during pregnancy. Is this true? Also, would my sperm count go down as I approach 30? 2) Can flavoured condoms cause any complications? 3) Sometimes, the intercourse lasts for 10 minutes. At times, it gets over before three minutes. Is it okay? Should I practice 'start and stop' technique? 4) Please tell us about the best possible positions. 5) On what days of the monthly period cycle can we indulge in unprotected sex?

A: 1) You both have the right to decide when you wish to start a family. It is best she gets herself examined by a gynaecologist and you have a sperm count test done to ensure all is well when you wish to have a baby. It is best to start trying when you are 25. After that, there are higher chances of facing a difficulty. 2) No complications, if you use condoms from reputed manufacturers. Get the doctors-tested Flavored Condoms. 3) You can, but this is not essential. 4) Refer the net or the Kamasutra. You are doing okay. 5) The first and last seven days of the period cycle counting from the first day of period. It is virtually safe and worth taking a risk. For added safety, your wife could insert the barrier tablet TODAY, 15 minutes before intercourse. She can also use Water-based lubricats for additional comfort and guaranteed results.

Is Sex sleeping pill?

Q: I am 32 years old. I have been married for the past eight years. I love sex and indulge in it every day. I can’t sleep if I don’t have sex. My wife is very co-operative. However, she occasionally experiences stomach aches due to this. Are my habits normal? Please suggest.

A: Sex is not a sleeping pill. Indulge in it when you both enjoy it, and not necessarily on a daily basis. Your primary duty is to ensure that your wife is comfortable.

Solution of bedwetting

Q: I am 24 years old. I suffer from a problem of bedwetting. I have tried a lot to get rid of it, but haven’t been successful. I have decided to commit suicide if I don’t get rid of this problem before next year. Also, I don’t have facial hair under my nose. It is very embarrassing. Please help.

A: Why do you take these common problems so seriously? How does it matter to anyone whether you have hair under your nose or not? Does it make you less of a man? Regarding your bedwetting problem, consult a urologist at the genito urinary department of any major hospital such as Sion, KEM and JJ. Visit hospitals such as Hinduja and Jaslok if you can afford. Do not be
desperate. There is a solution to your problem.

Is masturbation immoral & lead to irregular periods?

Q1: I indulged in masturbation last week. Am I a bad human being? I am very scared. How do I quit masturbation? Please help.

A1: It is quite common for a person to masturbate. It is a safe method to satisfy one's sexual
excitement. Do it only for satisfaction and do not turn it into a habit. Do not think
yourself inferior for this.

Q2: Can masturbation be the reason for irregular periods?

A2: Masturbation will not disturb your period cycle.

Periods, oral sex & Sex after pregnancy

Q1: 1) I experience motions during my periods. Is it normal or do I need to consult a doctor? 2) Is oral sex illegal in India? However, I believe many couples indulge in it.

A1: 1) You could consult a doctor to decide whether there's any other cause involved. 2) Yes, oral sex is illegal. The archaic laws have not been modified. It is a sensitive subject. In privacy, many couples indulge in it. Some do it to avoid unsafe intercourse, being scared of AIDS.

Q2: My wife delivered two months ago and underwent tubectomy 20 days later. For how long should we abstain from sex?

A2: Ask the doctor who operated her. I think you can start immediately without any anxiety.

Hygienic ways of masturbation

Q: I am 21 years old. I am fed up of masturbating in the bathroom. I don't feel relaxed and can't use techniques that I can use elsewhere. If I masturbate on the bed or the floor, it needs to be cleaned later. Please suggest an alternative. Also, can a tight underwear create problems?

A: A tight underwear can interfere with sperm production. Why not keep a cloth handy in which you can ejaculate? That way you won't have to clean the bed sheet or the floor.

How to have safe sex with married girlfriend?

Q: I have sex with my married girlfriend two to three times a month. She also has sex with her husband. Initially we have unprotected sex but when I ejaculate I wear a condom. But a colourless liquid comes out of my penis during foreplay. My girlfriend is pregnant and she is confused as to whose baby it is. Please help, we are sextremely worried.

A: You are indulging in unsafe sex. The colourless liquid i.e. the precum fluid can have sperms. Either men could have caused the pregnancy.

Fantasising about women dominating in bed & Sex

Q1: I am a 25-year-old man. The number of times I masturbate has considerably reduced after I turned 20. Will this affect my marriage? Also when I was 15, I had sex with a 24-year-old woman. She started bleeding and I experienced pain in my penis. Can this lead to an HIV infection?

A1: Get over your anxiety, you are OK. Your married life will be fine too.

Q2: I am a 28-year-old married man. While having sex, I get excited only after fantasising about other women who are dominating in bed. I am unable to tell this to my wife. Is this normal?

A2: This is known as masochistic behaviour. Your wife is your life partner, so tell her or continue your fantasy.

Unprotected sex, HIV & ELISA test

Q: I had protected sex with two sex workers on different occasions. I have undergone several HIV tests and the result has always been negative. I also consulted an expert who said I am out of danger. Recently I read an article that said it’s important to get tested every three to five months. Is that true? Also I feel guilty about my behaviour and cannot forgive myself.

A: Since you have been cleared by reliable tests and by an expert, why torture yourself? You enjoyed the experience, so keep it at that and do not repeat it. You do not need any more tests, but if you wish you could repeat an ELISA test after the fifth month.

Kissing, HIV, Pregnancy & iPill

Q1: Does kissing your partner on the lips cause HIV or any other infection?

A1: If you trust your partner, go ahead and kiss him/her. There is no chance of any disease or infection.

Q2: I am a 25-year-old woman. I had sex on the ninth day of my period. Within five hours I had an I-Pill. Are there any chances of pregnancy? When can I conceive again?

A2: Since you have taken the emergency pill on time you are unlikely to be pregnant. However, you could get pregnant in the same cycle if you continue to have sex without protection.

Masturbation & Nightfalls at young age

Q1: I am 61 years old. Whenever I see a beautiful lady, I feel aroused and masturbate immediately. Can it prove harmful at this age? Please advise.

A1: Your fantasies are okay as long as you do not translate them into action or make the women feel that you are undressing them with your ‘dirty old man’ looks.

Q2: I am 19 years old. I am experiencing nightfalls. I wish to stop them. Please help. Also, how do I masturbate?

A2: Nightfall is a natural way by which the excess old sperms are thrown out of the body to make place for the new ones. Masturbation is done by stroking the penis with the hand. It is a common and safe way of relieving sexual excitement. It should be done only for that purpose. Do not make it into a habit. It is harmless and does not damage any part of the body.

White spot on vagina of a virgin

Q: I am a 22-year-old virgin. I have two white spots on my vagina. I don’t experience itching in that area. Are there chances that the white spots will spread to the rest of my body? Do I need to undergo any treatment?

A: For how long have you been noticing them? If they have been the same for many years, then leave them alone. If you think they have become larger, consult a skin specialist.

Can I increase my penis' size?

Q: Is it possible to increase one’s penis size? If yes, is there any age bar? Are any medicines available for the same? Are Ayurvedic medicines effective?

A: The penis size cannot be increased except via a surgical operation which is not advisable. Bogus procedures and medicines are available. Gullible people lighten their pockets and are disappointed later on. Better you be satisfied with the penis size you already have. However you can try Penis Erection solutions by Ezerex as it is scientifically proven and quite helpful.

Boyfriend ejaculates within 2 minutes!

Q: I am 21 years old. Whenever I get intimate with my boyfriend, I help him masturbate. However, he ejaculates within two minutes and loses interest after that. He isn’t as romantic as he is before he ejaculates, and leaves me dissatisfied. Please help.

A: Refuse to touch his penis till he fully satisfies you via foreplay. I hope you both are taking the necessary precautions and using condoms. Do not take any risk.

Can HIV be contracted in Massage parlours?

Q: I am 27 years old. I visited a massage parlour where a woman helped me masturbate. I ejaculated on a small wet towel given to me. She wiped my penis with that towel and put it for washing. I am afraid that towel might have been used by someone else earlier. Are there chances of HIV infection? Should I undergo a test to confirm the same?

A: HIV is not transmitted in the manner described by you. Do not worry. However, avoid such behaviour henceforth. You may not be lucky next time. HIV enters the body via an opening, the HIV virus being present in the blood, vaginal secretion, etc. To know more, call the GSK helpline. Tel: 23953444.

Masturbation & less concentration on studies

Q: I am 21 years old. I masturbate four times a day. I am not being able to concentrate on my academics. Is it harmful? Please help.

A: How can you focus on anything if you masturbate four times a day and have no control over your emotions? Do it only when you are sexually excited, maybe once every day or thrice a week.

Talking with girlfriend excites me for Sex!

Q: I am 26 years old. I think a lot about sex. Whenever I talk to my girlfriend, a fluid is secreted from my penis. How do I get rid of this problem? Please help.

A: It is natural for a lubricating fluid to be excreted from a special gland, whenever a male is excited. You are normal.

Periods & becoming pregnant

Q: On what days of the monthly period cycle should we have intercourse so that we may conceive?

A: If the periods are regular, then indulge in intercourse five days before and five days after the 14th day, counting from the first day of the period cycle. However, if you have sex three to four times a week, you need not keep a calendar.

Excessive workout & Penis size

Q: Can excessive workout affect one's penis size?

A: The penis size is oblivious of anything else. Exercise as much as you like; it will remain the same size.

Troubles of excess fat around chest

Q: I am 19 years old. There's an abnormal amount of fat around my chest. It looks bad whenever I wear a tight shirt. My friends often tease me. Please help.

A: Wait for a year and the swelling will subside. If it doesn't, consult a cosmetic surgeon or learn to live with this slight enlargement.

Generic Questions @ Genital Parts: 1

Q: I am 24 years old. 1) Whenever I urinate, tears come out of my eyes. I have been facing this problem since childhood. What do I do? 2) Of late, I have been feeling attracted towards beautiful women as well as handsome men. However, I have decided that I don't want to be a homosexual. Please suggest.

A: 1) I have never come across such a problem. It seems the eyes are also trying to get rid of excess fluid from the body. 2) If you have decided, then stop staring at men and focus on the female partner. While masturbating, fantasise with a woman in mind.

Can eating papaya help avoid pregnancy?

Q: I indulged in unsafe sex on the ninth day of my period cycle. My friends asked me to have papaya to avoid pregnancy, which I did. Now, I am waiting for my periods. Should I take any other precaution? Please help.

A: Papaya will not help if you are pregnant. Check with a urine pregnancy test kit available with the chemist. If it tests positive or you miss your periods, contact the doctor at the FPA India KSK Centre. Tel: +91-22-23098267 / 23011783.