Stress, anxiety, overwork can all impact one’s libido. If ‘Honey, I have a headache!’ has become your man’s line of late, then your sex life is on toss and you need following mantras to cope up...
Coping With IT...
- A wife could use these troubled times to build the emotional intimacy and companionship with her husband, educate herself about the finer details of his problem and engage him in small joys in an unpressurising manner, such as sharing the child’s achievement in school.
- She could engage in non-sexual touching like offering a back rub or head massage to bond with him.
- She shouldn’t mind her husband wanting to spend time with his colleagues who enlighten him on ways to deal with the problem, not make any unreasonable material demands and tell him he’s not alone.
- Tell him that both of you will get through it ‘together’, and that you believe in his abilities.
- Ensure that he doesn’t blame himself. Assure him that everyone is in the same boat. Help him accept uncertainties and forgive himself for human errors, if any.
- She can help de-stigmatise seeking professional help. If he is depressed, accompany him to a counsellor.
- She could identify what brings him joy. Small things such as cooking his favourite meal, inviting his best friend over for dinner can help him.
- At times, when he is relaxed, she could take the lead, touch him sensually, with no pressure to perform, and see if he wants to take it forward.
- The woman, of course, has her own emotional and physical needs. She could channelise her libido in work and children, or sublimate her sexual urges in creative pursuits. If she is spiritually inclined, then prayer and meditation can give her comfort.
- She could also engage in self-pleasuring from time to time to deal with her own heightened sexual urges.
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