Periods, oral sex & Sex after pregnancy

Q1: 1) I experience motions during my periods. Is it normal or do I need to consult a doctor? 2) Is oral sex illegal in India? However, I believe many couples indulge in it.

A1: 1) You could consult a doctor to decide whether there's any other cause involved. 2) Yes, oral sex is illegal. The archaic laws have not been modified. It is a sensitive subject. In privacy, many couples indulge in it. Some do it to avoid unsafe intercourse, being scared of AIDS.

Q2: My wife delivered two months ago and underwent tubectomy 20 days later. For how long should we abstain from sex?

A2: Ask the doctor who operated her. I think you can start immediately without any anxiety.

Hygienic ways of masturbation

Q: I am 21 years old. I am fed up of masturbating in the bathroom. I don't feel relaxed and can't use techniques that I can use elsewhere. If I masturbate on the bed or the floor, it needs to be cleaned later. Please suggest an alternative. Also, can a tight underwear create problems?

A: A tight underwear can interfere with sperm production. Why not keep a cloth handy in which you can ejaculate? That way you won't have to clean the bed sheet or the floor.

How to have safe sex with married girlfriend?

Q: I have sex with my married girlfriend two to three times a month. She also has sex with her husband. Initially we have unprotected sex but when I ejaculate I wear a condom. But a colourless liquid comes out of my penis during foreplay. My girlfriend is pregnant and she is confused as to whose baby it is. Please help, we are sextremely worried.

A: You are indulging in unsafe sex. The colourless liquid i.e. the precum fluid can have sperms. Either men could have caused the pregnancy.

Fantasising about women dominating in bed & Sex

Q1: I am a 25-year-old man. The number of times I masturbate has considerably reduced after I turned 20. Will this affect my marriage? Also when I was 15, I had sex with a 24-year-old woman. She started bleeding and I experienced pain in my penis. Can this lead to an HIV infection?

A1: Get over your anxiety, you are OK. Your married life will be fine too.

Q2: I am a 28-year-old married man. While having sex, I get excited only after fantasising about other women who are dominating in bed. I am unable to tell this to my wife. Is this normal?

A2: This is known as masochistic behaviour. Your wife is your life partner, so tell her or continue your fantasy.

Unprotected sex, HIV & ELISA test

Q: I had protected sex with two sex workers on different occasions. I have undergone several HIV tests and the result has always been negative. I also consulted an expert who said I am out of danger. Recently I read an article that said it’s important to get tested every three to five months. Is that true? Also I feel guilty about my behaviour and cannot forgive myself.

A: Since you have been cleared by reliable tests and by an expert, why torture yourself? You enjoyed the experience, so keep it at that and do not repeat it. You do not need any more tests, but if you wish you could repeat an ELISA test after the fifth month.

Kissing, HIV, Pregnancy & iPill

Q1: Does kissing your partner on the lips cause HIV or any other infection?

A1: If you trust your partner, go ahead and kiss him/her. There is no chance of any disease or infection.

Q2: I am a 25-year-old woman. I had sex on the ninth day of my period. Within five hours I had an I-Pill. Are there any chances of pregnancy? When can I conceive again?

A2: Since you have taken the emergency pill on time you are unlikely to be pregnant. However, you could get pregnant in the same cycle if you continue to have sex without protection.