How to consummate marriage?

Q1: I got married a month ago, but we are not able to consummate our marriage. I feel scared when my husband tries to penetrate me. He tried inserting his finger, but I didn’t bleed. My husband is supportive but I feel guilty of pushing him away. How we can have a normal sex life?

A1: Use Xylocaine gel 2% and apply it for 15 minutes before bedtime in and around the vagina. You will not experience pain. Ask him to insert a finger deep inside the vagina before the intercourse.