--- Check out the Part 1 & Part 2 of this series ---
5. Anal stimulation provides many kinds of pleasure.
The highest concentration of nerve endings is around the anal opening itself. A finger can focus on them especially effectively. When an object or penis is inserted beyond the anal opening into the rectum, other pleasures are involved. The outer portion of the rectum, like the vagina, has several nerve endings. The inner portion responds mostly to pressure. Some people enjoy the feelings of pressure and fullness once they understand that these sensations do not presage an impending bowel movement. Rectal pressure is especially important to enthusiasts of "fisting," a form of anal sex in which several fingers or even the entire hand and forearm are inserted into the rectum and sometimes into the lower colon.
In men, the prostate - which is just beyond the rectal wall, a few inches in, towards the front of the body - can be a source of pleasure when massaged by a finger, an object, or a penis. Also, the lower end of the penis, or "bulb," is near the anal opening opening. It is stimulated indirectly by most types of anal sex. Anal pleasure can be psychological as well as physical. The anal taboo adds to the thrill of the forbidden. The most common anti-anal message (it's dirty!) sometimes returns as a source of raunchy, sleazy excitement. Rimming enthusiasts may enjoy the feeling that they are being disgustingly - and delightfully - perverse. Other people regard the anus as a secret, special place. Sharing it with a partner is an act of openness and giving.
6. Anal stimulation can lead to orgasm.
A minority of men and women can respond orgasmically to anal sex without direct genital stimulation. Women probably do so through pelvic muscle contractions - and a small minority even though the sheer excitement of being anally penetrated. When men experience an orgasm from anal stimulation, they tend to focus on the prostate. No doubt they are also responding to indirect stimulation of the penile bulb.
Orgasms from anal stimulation are most likely to occur when the participants become thoroughly absorbed in their sensations and fantasies. An almost certain way to prevent such an orgasm is to be become determined to have one. Seeking an anal orgasm will create new pressures and disrupt the pleasure. It must be remembered that most people require direct genital stimulation in order to climax. On the other hand, a few people have orgasms only with anal stimulation.
--- To be continued... ---
Friday, 13 November 2009
Sunday, 8 November 2009
Tips to get better at oral sex (1)
I am asked constantly by my readers (I guess most of them are men): "How do I please a woman orally?" or "How can I get better at oral sex?" And after reading thousands of responses to my questioners from women of all walks of life, nationalities and ages, I truly believe that in order to be great lover you must be excellent in the art of pleasing a women with your mouth, lips and tongue. So this month I am going to give you step by step instructions on how to please a woman with oral sex!
It all starts with a kiss and if you are not good at kissing you won't get far enough to get her panties off of her and use your new found oral skills. So first I want to share some flawless techniques for driving her wild with a kiss. Many women complain that after they have had sex with a man for a while or are in a relationship with a man that he does not kiss them often enough or long enough. So if you are guilty of this STOP IT NOW! And go kiss your lover like you did in the beginning. Pretend that this is your first kiss for the very first time and try to feel those same feelings all over again. Then kiss her and slowly and passionately make out with her like you used to in when you were first dating.
Believe me: a woman can tell when the very first time a man kisses her if she is going to sleep with him! Better enough, if he knows how to kiss, he definitely will be good in bed! WOW!! Your first kiss could be your last! Many women actually decide with your first kiss if they will go any further. So it stands to reason that you better polish up your kissing skills and techniques.
1. Clean Teeth and Fresh Breath
First, you absolutely must have clean teeth and fresh clean smelling breath. You should have your teeth cleaned (from a dentist) at least twice a year. And brush your teeth every morning and evening and after ever meal if possible. Drink a lot of water rather than soft drinks (for general health and for healthy teeth), coffee can stain your teeth and leave bad breath. Also if you are on a date and you go to dinner, after you eat go to the restroom and clean your teeth and make sure you don't have any food stuck in your teeth. The natural enzymes in your mouth can cause the food to putrefy in your mouth and cause bad breath. This is especially true with meat! Keep some mints handy for the both of you. Mints are better than gum because they will dissolve where gum will stay around and may get in the way of your first kiss!
2. Keep Your Lips In Shape!
Do you want to kiss someone with dry, cracked and or raw lips? Well neither does she! So keep your lips in good shape. Keep some chapstick, carmex or other lip conditioner with you at all times and keep your lips soft and smooth. Don't pick or pull your skin on your lips, it will only make it worse!
--- Check out this section for more kissing techniques ---
It all starts with a kiss and if you are not good at kissing you won't get far enough to get her panties off of her and use your new found oral skills. So first I want to share some flawless techniques for driving her wild with a kiss. Many women complain that after they have had sex with a man for a while or are in a relationship with a man that he does not kiss them often enough or long enough. So if you are guilty of this STOP IT NOW! And go kiss your lover like you did in the beginning. Pretend that this is your first kiss for the very first time and try to feel those same feelings all over again. Then kiss her and slowly and passionately make out with her like you used to in when you were first dating.
Believe me: a woman can tell when the very first time a man kisses her if she is going to sleep with him! Better enough, if he knows how to kiss, he definitely will be good in bed! WOW!! Your first kiss could be your last! Many women actually decide with your first kiss if they will go any further. So it stands to reason that you better polish up your kissing skills and techniques.
1. Clean Teeth and Fresh Breath
First, you absolutely must have clean teeth and fresh clean smelling breath. You should have your teeth cleaned (from a dentist) at least twice a year. And brush your teeth every morning and evening and after ever meal if possible. Drink a lot of water rather than soft drinks (for general health and for healthy teeth), coffee can stain your teeth and leave bad breath. Also if you are on a date and you go to dinner, after you eat go to the restroom and clean your teeth and make sure you don't have any food stuck in your teeth. The natural enzymes in your mouth can cause the food to putrefy in your mouth and cause bad breath. This is especially true with meat! Keep some mints handy for the both of you. Mints are better than gum because they will dissolve where gum will stay around and may get in the way of your first kiss!
2. Keep Your Lips In Shape!
Do you want to kiss someone with dry, cracked and or raw lips? Well neither does she! So keep your lips in good shape. Keep some chapstick, carmex or other lip conditioner with you at all times and keep your lips soft and smooth. Don't pick or pull your skin on your lips, it will only make it worse!
--- Check out this section for more kissing techniques ---
Wednesday, 4 November 2009
10 Rules of Safe Anal Sex (2/5)
--- Continued from Part 1 ---
3. Anal sex can be enjoyed even if it has been consistently uncomfortable in the past.
Sufficient desire alone does not necessarily guarantee pleasurable anal sex. Nor is an uncomfortable previous experience always the reason for a lack of interest in or desire for anal sex. Chronic anal tension is the most common cause of anal discomfort during sex. Hemorrhoids and constipation are usually a sign of this condition. Tension can be relieved by touching the anus and becoming more familiar with it. An ideal time to explore the anal opening is while taking a shower or bath. Deep breathing also affects the anal muscles. Tensing the anus and the letting go in another way of learning to relax it.
Anyone who enjoys masturbation might want to experiment with some form of anal stimulation, though he or she should stop if any discomfort occurs. For many people the turning point in anal sex is when they allow a partner to massage the anus with the understanding that intercourse will not be attempted. Then the recipient of anal caresses can concentrate solely on the pleasure that this erogenous zone is capable of generating.
4. Two muscle rings called sphincters surround the anal opening. Each functions independently.
If you insert a finger about one half-inch into your anus and press your fingertip against the side, you can clearly feel the two sphincter muscles. There is less than a quarter-inch between them. The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system - just like the muscles of the hand, for example. You can readily tense and relax this sphincter whenever you want. The internal sphincter is quite different. This muscle is controlled by the involuntary or autonomic part of the nervous system, which governs such functions as heartbeat and stress response. The internal sphincter reflects and responds to fear and anxiety during anal sex. It will cause the anus to tense up automatically even if the passive partner is trying to relax. Thus, precautions about safety and comfort are essential here.
Even if a person does feel comfortable during anal sex, he or she may still need to learn voluntary control over his or her internal sphincter in order to relax it at will. Doing so requires regularly inserting a finger, perhaps in the shower each day, and feeling the internal sphincter. The muscle changes spontaneously and in response to behavior. In this instance, simply paying attention is more important than trying to relax. Anyone can gradually learn to control the internal sphincter at will.
--- To be continued... ---
3. Anal sex can be enjoyed even if it has been consistently uncomfortable in the past.
Sufficient desire alone does not necessarily guarantee pleasurable anal sex. Nor is an uncomfortable previous experience always the reason for a lack of interest in or desire for anal sex. Chronic anal tension is the most common cause of anal discomfort during sex. Hemorrhoids and constipation are usually a sign of this condition. Tension can be relieved by touching the anus and becoming more familiar with it. An ideal time to explore the anal opening is while taking a shower or bath. Deep breathing also affects the anal muscles. Tensing the anus and the letting go in another way of learning to relax it.
Anyone who enjoys masturbation might want to experiment with some form of anal stimulation, though he or she should stop if any discomfort occurs. For many people the turning point in anal sex is when they allow a partner to massage the anus with the understanding that intercourse will not be attempted. Then the recipient of anal caresses can concentrate solely on the pleasure that this erogenous zone is capable of generating.
4. Two muscle rings called sphincters surround the anal opening. Each functions independently.
If you insert a finger about one half-inch into your anus and press your fingertip against the side, you can clearly feel the two sphincter muscles. There is less than a quarter-inch between them. The external sphincter is controlled by the central nervous system - just like the muscles of the hand, for example. You can readily tense and relax this sphincter whenever you want. The internal sphincter is quite different. This muscle is controlled by the involuntary or autonomic part of the nervous system, which governs such functions as heartbeat and stress response. The internal sphincter reflects and responds to fear and anxiety during anal sex. It will cause the anus to tense up automatically even if the passive partner is trying to relax. Thus, precautions about safety and comfort are essential here.
Even if a person does feel comfortable during anal sex, he or she may still need to learn voluntary control over his or her internal sphincter in order to relax it at will. Doing so requires regularly inserting a finger, perhaps in the shower each day, and feeling the internal sphincter. The muscle changes spontaneously and in response to behavior. In this instance, simply paying attention is more important than trying to relax. Anyone can gradually learn to control the internal sphincter at will.
--- To be continued... ---
Friday, 30 October 2009
10 Rules of Safe Anal Sex (1/5)
Anal Eroticism is surrounded by a powerful taboo. Yet millions of men and women - straight, gay and bisexual - are experimenting with anal sex. The anus, richly endowed with nerve endings and interconnected with the main pelvic muscles, is the closest erogenous neighbor of the genitals and contracts rhythmically during orgasm. Thirty-five years ago, Kinsey stated that the anal region had erotic significance for about half of the population. In a survey of 100,000 Playboy readers, 47 percent of the men and 61 percent of the women admitted to having tried anal intercourse.
Yet the anal taboo inhibits most people from thinking, talking and learning about the sexual use of the anus. Listed here are the ten things most men and women still do not know about anal sex:
1. Anal intercourse is the least practiced form of anal sex.
There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common techniques include touching the anal opening while masturbating or stimulating a partner's anus during intercourse or oral sex. Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger - their own or a lover's - insinuated into their anal opening and gently rotated. Others may prefer the insertion of a dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening and short anal canal into the larger rectum.
Many men, including heterosexuals, prefer this form of penetration. Oral-anal lovemaking is popularly known as rimming. The very idea disgusts some people. Others enjoy performing it or allowing themselves to be probed in this special way.
2. Anal stimulation, including intercourse, is not painful if done properly.
The belief that anal stimulation, especially intercourse, has to hurt is a persistent and dangerous myth. Just as pain anywhere in the body indicates that something is wrong, so is the same true of the anal area. With its high concentration of nerve endings, the anus can produce extreme agony when it is mistreated. Yet it can be a source of great pleasure. When a finger, object or penis is introduced into the anus, the anal muscles go into spasm, as if fighting off an invasion. Pain will result if the partners do not wait for these muscles to relax. Under sufficient stress they will eventually collapse and the pain subside, unless further damage is done. But, any 'pleasure' afforded from this kind of activity derives mostly from the absence of discomfort.
Maximum anal pleasure requires the elimination of all pain or physical trauma from the anal experience. Self-protection on the part of the passive partner involves being ready to say "no" until he or she is ready to proceed. Readiness is a combination of physical relaxation, usually helped along by plenty of leisurely anal touching, and desire. Occasionally the anal muscles are relaxes, but the passive partner is still not in the mood. Stimulation should mount only in proportion to the degree of receptivity.
Yet the anal taboo inhibits most people from thinking, talking and learning about the sexual use of the anus. Listed here are the ten things most men and women still do not know about anal sex:
1. Anal intercourse is the least practiced form of anal sex.
There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common techniques include touching the anal opening while masturbating or stimulating a partner's anus during intercourse or oral sex. Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger - their own or a lover's - insinuated into their anal opening and gently rotated. Others may prefer the insertion of a dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening and short anal canal into the larger rectum.
Many men, including heterosexuals, prefer this form of penetration. Oral-anal lovemaking is popularly known as rimming. The very idea disgusts some people. Others enjoy performing it or allowing themselves to be probed in this special way.
2. Anal stimulation, including intercourse, is not painful if done properly.
The belief that anal stimulation, especially intercourse, has to hurt is a persistent and dangerous myth. Just as pain anywhere in the body indicates that something is wrong, so is the same true of the anal area. With its high concentration of nerve endings, the anus can produce extreme agony when it is mistreated. Yet it can be a source of great pleasure. When a finger, object or penis is introduced into the anus, the anal muscles go into spasm, as if fighting off an invasion. Pain will result if the partners do not wait for these muscles to relax. Under sufficient stress they will eventually collapse and the pain subside, unless further damage is done. But, any 'pleasure' afforded from this kind of activity derives mostly from the absence of discomfort.
Maximum anal pleasure requires the elimination of all pain or physical trauma from the anal experience. Self-protection on the part of the passive partner involves being ready to say "no" until he or she is ready to proceed. Readiness is a combination of physical relaxation, usually helped along by plenty of leisurely anal touching, and desire. Occasionally the anal muscles are relaxes, but the passive partner is still not in the mood. Stimulation should mount only in proportion to the degree of receptivity.
--- To be continued... ---
Sunday, 25 October 2009
Be Careful with Dogs on Beaches
I have heard that there are a few beaches where everyone (but I am interested in only women) goes naked. WOW! Hows exciting... I am feeling the stiffness even by reading this line!
Anyways, my main point is that, one needs to be careful from animals on beaches, especially if one is naked. One animal women need not worry about is me. And other animal they should worry about is a dog... Yes, a dog can catch you in tricky situations!
Check out the following picture...
Anyways, my main point is that, one needs to be careful from animals on beaches, especially if one is naked. One animal women need not worry about is me. And other animal they should worry about is a dog... Yes, a dog can catch you in tricky situations!
Check out the following picture...
I wish I would be this dog for a day!!! AMEN.
Sunday, 18 October 2009
Watching Bollywood sex sirens improve sex drive (2)
Since I am back from the action (check out my earlier post which tells what made me indulge into the action), here is one more & refreshing lot of Bollywood sexy sirens... I am sure this time your pants will get wet!
Oh God... I am feeling something hard in my pants... I am getting so much excited!!!
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Oh God... I am feeling something hard in my pants... I am getting so much excited!!!
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